Right, I was going to change my name for this but what the hell. SCENARIO:- playground mums, friends etc. 2 of my friends not talking, one of them is godmother to other one's child (15months). It's relevant, belive me.Friends 1 and 2 (D and M) re not speaking but I talk to both, in turn in playground. 3rd friend (T) is younger than us but a laugh. Me, M and T sort of get together.....T's daughter is enrolled in my classes, her kids are great. I am invited over to T's house tomorow, with M. Reluctant due to crap life and general apathy but found out yesterday that only me and M were invited so felt sort of obliged to go. Sad cow, I am. Approached in playground by friend "D" who told me she had been agonising whether to tell me that "everyone" knew in playground except me and friend "M" that "T's" husband has been done last year for child porn interbet crap tc. Done by police, door broken down, stuff taken away and large fine given. Not sure if prison sentence handed out.However, told that said husband was not allowed into school, near school, or to collect his kids. Asked if friend "T" knew about this trouble and was told she had said "but it's only photos". Have been incontact with police who can't officially tell me anything.
Can't speak to schools until Monday, who can't tell me anything anyway bcause he's a parent and the data protection stuff etc..
Do I tell my friend who I think occasionally leaves her 15 motnth old round at the house, friend's dh works at home, or not? I have to go round there tomorrow and pretend nothing has changed, because hand on heart I don't know. If he was a paed, surely his kids wouldn't be there with him, police have muttered as much to me without disclosing more than they should. However, he came to "my" huge Xmas party, 100 kids having fun and I can't honestly tell you if he had a camera with him. I feel sick, that he might have taken photos of kids, and I didn't know about him.
My friend's "defence" to an accusation, not by me, was that it was only photos. I am very broadminded and have no problem with any sort of adult porn, BUT anything to do with kids, keep it. My gut feeling is that I should go tomorrow, play the lie of the land and ask "without being suspicious" if her Dh had any photos of the Xmas party as I have a newspaper bulletin ready to go out. If I have any "concrete"evidence, I will tell friend with 15 month old. Don't want to go tomoorrow but can't help feeling this could turn into a witchunt (chinese whispers) and I'll be the one that actualy spoke of the rumours around the playground. Surely if school knows of an offender, don't we have the right to know? Help please, advice and voices of reason
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jollymum · 14/01/2005 21:49
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