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lockets Thu 13-Jan-05 16:05:51

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lockets Thu 13-Jan-05 16:13:33

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pixiefish Thu 13-Jan-05 16:15:15

no lockets- but my dd is very possessive of me and i'm sure hat your dd won't have been traumatised

pixiefish Thu 13-Jan-05 16:15:16

no lockets- but my dd is very possessive of me and i'm sure hat your dd won't have been traumatised

nailpolish Thu 13-Jan-05 16:15:26

sorry lockets, no experience, just wanted to say, dont worry, dd is obviously looking after you.

my dd was same age but she was ok if she got to sit beside me on the table while heartbeat was checked

lockets Thu 13-Jan-05 16:18:49

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pixiefish Thu 13-Jan-05 16:20:39

that's a bit scary lockets. how will she cope seeing her mum in pain! my dd gets really upset when she sees me cry at the news. dh shouted at me last week and she wouldn't go near him for a day

nailpolish Thu 13-Jan-05 16:22:24

omg lockets! she would be fighting with the mw!

lockets Thu 13-Jan-05 16:23:13

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pixiefish Thu 13-Jan-05 16:24:20

some people!

lockets Thu 13-Jan-05 16:24:25

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RudyDudy Thu 13-Jan-05 16:25:04

oh lockets - poor you. I had the same thing when DS was a bit younger (about 8/9mo) and I had to be examined by a Dr - cried his little heart out I think they are very possessive at this age and get confused because they really can't understand what is going on. But sure she won't be traumatised by it. As for at the birth... - can't think of anything worse!!

lockets Thu 13-Jan-05 16:38:28

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Gem13 Thu 13-Jan-05 16:38:41

Poor you. DS (also 15 months) was really upset at my 20 week scan. DH was with me so took DS out and the sonographer tutted and said she didn't know why people insisted on bringing their children with them!?!?!!

I told her we had no one to leave him with and DH was skivving off work to come and see the scan as it was. If he hadn't been there who would have looked after DS? As it was DH missed the scan and I didn't enjoy it much either.

DS wasn't traumatised but I was fed up. Why can't they have an extra pair of hands at the appointments? It was a similar hassle at the general checks.

I guess it's just the difference between the first and subsequent pregnancies. Prepares you for what is to come!

lockets Thu 13-Jan-05 16:41:35

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oatcake Thu 13-Jan-05 16:44:28

you weren't planning a homebirth were you?

lockets Thu 13-Jan-05 18:19:27

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MunchedTooManyMarsLady Thu 13-Jan-05 18:23:03

All will be well lockets. Do you think that you could let the DTs see the labour as well? I think it's important that they know all about you.

morningpaper Thu 13-Jan-05 18:30:14

Oh poor you!

Maybe you could buy a toy doctor's kit and do some doctor-and-midwife type play? That might help her to make sense of the experience and also reassure her so she knows what will happen next time?

lockets Thu 13-Jan-05 18:30:40

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lockets Thu 13-Jan-05 18:31:55

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misdee Thu 13-Jan-05 18:33:10

poor dd. dont think my 2 would be bothered by the whole doc thing, but thats just part of their lives unfortunatly.

i agree with the doc playset thing. think ELC do a nice set and dressing up outfit.

lockets Thu 13-Jan-05 18:36:05

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Amanda3266 Thu 13-Jan-05 18:36:29

Hi lockets,

Sympathies. I used to be a mw (not for the past three years now though) and remember that small children used to do this. I think they just worry that Mummy is being hurt. I used to sit them up on the couch with Mummy and get them to help me palpate and then listen in to the heartbeat. It's not so easy to do when they are young though - although just sitting next to Mum seemed to comfort some of them.


lockets Thu 13-Jan-05 18:39:27

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