We are on day two of trying to lessen the use of a dummy as dd2 was becoming very dependant on it, wed am she broke the dummy she had with her while we were out so i wouldnt give it back said it was broken etc she screamed the rest of the time we were out then yesterday i didnt take one with me to do 2 school runs and she screamed throughout - highly embarrassing!! BUT today i said leave dummy in cot, dummy is for bedtimes now you are a big girl (will be 2 tomorrow) and she has asked for it a few times this morning but i've repeated dummy is in your cot for when you go to sleep and she hasn't cried, i've let her have it for her nap this afternoon so not sure what will happen when she gets up and has to leave it, she always wants it on school run - any tips on how to stop her crying for it (if she cries) i've tried taking toys instead but she throws them and has a massive tantrum
She has fractured her colar bone this week so Dp said he thinks we should leave the dummy thing while her shoulder hurts but I really think she is ready to give it up in the daytime, if i don't limit the time she has it she would have it in all day and she is getting very possesive over it every time she can't get her own way or falls over she wants it and screams and screams until she gets it, i think its best to nip it in the bud. Of course I have sympathy for the fact her shoulder hurts but i'm with her all day so can cuddle her for comfort.
With Dd1 we let her have it until her 4th birthday (not sure when she gave it up in the daytime but this was the bedtime dummy) she screamed to start with but we told her firmly no its gone and she never asked again.
(Hi law3, things are going well thanks, your advice on my thread was great btw in the end a firm NO has been doing me good, i think because i've got an 8yr old i sometimes (without realising) over complicate things when talking to the younger ones, i've had a really sore throat this week and have limited the words i'm using and have found saying a simple NO has helped, I have also been using time out for hitting, a wipe round the face and a firm NO with the spitting has been working so far, dd2 isn't copying as much either as she has quickly picked up on the fact there are consquences. Plus they are both now completely over chicken pox so that has helped!)