No curious thoughts

[inspector1983]

I'm married but bi curious and I keep having thoughts about my old teacher who is by now around 40 or 45 I think (I'm 35), she's female as I am, she was very much had the whole lesbian look going on as in quite masculine dressing and hair etc and everyone always said how lovely she was as a person and what a great teacher she was. I never had any dealings with her so never really spoke to her but she was a form tutor for my year 9-11 so I Saw her around a lot

I'm now married at 35 with a baby and I've only ever drunkenly snogged girl mates in the last like early 20s just as dates etc and curiosity but never felt anything so why does this teacher suddenly come to mind now?

Also I was in the opticians yesterday and the lady helping me looked very feminine but upon talking to her she then came across kinda masculine in her voice and her manners etc and I suddenly thought ok so she's hot

What's happening to me as this is all very confusing

PS I don't want a 3sum or anything like that and if I told my hubby these thoughts I don't think he would understand so choosing not to mention it as I would never cheat anyway

[inspector1983]

That's meant to say as dares not dates

Also heading meant to say bi curious

[inspector1983]

Anyone got any thoughts

[GlasshouseStoneThrower]

I don't think it's that surprising that you're experiencing these feelings. A lot of bisexual women only realise that they are bi later in life, because our society is so heteronormative. And it's often meeting or knowing a queer woman who 'awakens' those feelings.

You aren't bad or wrong for being bi-curious. If you think it's starting to interfere with your marriage that's one thing, but if it's just a case of you considering and coming to understand your own sexuality, there is nothing wrong with that.