Worried about being away from 10 month old. Have you done it?

[dad2hen]

Hello all.

I am a new dad to a 9 month old baby boy. He's very ahead in my opinion already crawling very well, starting to stand for 5-10 seconds on his own and talking to me in babbles saying dad and mum.

I love my son to bits and hes the best thing that ever happened to me I haven't been away from him for more than 2 nights before, and I actually got very emotional when I returned to work after paternity leave.

I work for a luxury tavel company and as part of my benefits I get the opportunity to get sent on amazing trips anywhere in the world, however they're random and you might not get offered one for 2+ years. I got offered one to south America last year as a few people couldn't go as it was around due date I refused as I would never of missed his birth!

I have just been offered very luckily a trip to Uruguay & Buenos Aires for 15 days leaving in about a month and a half.

Son will be 10 months by then and my partner is very supportive and wants me to go, however I feel so guilty and I am worried he wont remember me when I get back.

Has anyone else left child this age for that long? I might be being really over sensitive as I know people work in Army and Navy etc... But I feel awful.

Extra info:
My girlfriend and I live together in our own house with 9 month old

DS is sleeping very well at the moment (slept 13 hours the other night! and had a 2 hours nap shortly after waking)

My parents live a mile away and are very involved and able to help out 24/7 with whatever if needs be.

My partner has good family connections not to far away and it working 3 days a week and taking the baby to work with her.

Thanks in advance for any input

[LilyMumsnet]

Hi OP,

We're just bumping this for you.

[SalrycLuxx]

I would go, if your partner is supportive of you doing so. I left mine and while it was hard (for me) there were great benefits in terms of my career, and my child was absolutely fine.

[SalrycLuxx]

DH has also been away. He also nearly missed the birth due to a work obligation that had been booked two years prior. If you don’t make a big deal of it, kids view it as normal. And there’s always Skype if you need a remote view during the trip.

[Moominfan]

Go! I went on a ski trip round about that age. My partner loved the one on one time. When I returned they were abit clingy but other than that they were fine. I won't lie I did miss them terribly at times but it was soo good to do some child free adulting

[sauvignonblancplz]

You’ll be fine, plenty of FaceTime & bring your wife back a good pressie 😂

[NerrSnerr]

My husband is away about 1-2 weeks every month, sometimes more and sometimes less. We try and Skype as often as we can but that's sometimes as little as twice a week due to time difference and schedule clash. Both children have always remembered their dad and greet him excitedly when he comes home.

[yearinyearout]

I've done it, although only for a week. Little one stayed at home at my house with my mum, and I don't think he even noticed I'd gone! If your partner is supportive carry on, he will be fine.