I have been asked on a hen weekend in this county BUT around a 6 hours drive away. The girls are positive it will only take around 3 hours but im not so sure .
Now the problem is that ds is only 5 months old and has been ill since birth, this has resulted in him having a stoma fitted (baby colostomy) which is due for reversal the end of next month.
Only a handfull of friends and family know about this and the girls who's hen night it is doesn't mainly because I don't feel the need to tell her personal info iykwim.
She knows ds is/has been ill BUT she is also making me feel guilty about not attending her weekend.
Friends going on the hen weekend have decided to travel down saturday morning and to return sunday night BUT im still not 100%.
Reasons: Im a sahm so I know exactly how tiring,time consuming,hard work it is with ds and changing his stoma bag/feeds etc and im a pro at it (!lol)..but still its hard work. We also have dd who is 2 and although im used to the pair of them I know how hard it will be for dh.
DH is all for me going but he knows I will worry about him and that I will miss the 3 of them..Yeah yeah I know the break will do me good but im a worrier..Now..dh has suggested we all go on this hen weekend BUT I spend the day (saturday..we will travel friday night so im ready for when other arrive on saturday am) with the girls as usual and go out as usual at night BUT it means im local for dh should he need me and at least I am free to help in the morning and at night iykwim.
BTW dh isn't the type to just call me when he's had enough..only tends to shout if its desperate.
Now none of the girls know this suggestion but I have just spoken to the "hen" and happened to drop this idea into the conversation...I can tell she wasn't happy by the fact that she never commented and the fact that she suggested DH has the lo's more often and maybe dd should go to nannas.! DD has NEVER stayed over at either grandparents and Im not starting now..
So my plans are to either go and take my family or not go at all.....
Whats so bad with this..?
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so i either go or I don't..
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