So I moved to a new area just less than a year ago. My son recently started at a preschool one village away. Although I have met some people since living here, I still feel like a bit of a stranger.
I've tried chatting to the other mums while waiting for preschool to open but no-one seems willing to engage in a conversation. In fact they all just chat to each other in little cliques. But even the mums who don't seem to know others seem loathe smile/say hello.
So I thought I'd try to get to know them better (I know what it's like when people have an established group of friends - it's easy to overlook someone new) by going to one of the committee meetings (which on the noticeboard says: everyone is welcome to attend).
OMG. When i arrived, I was stared at like I was some kind of freak. I didn't know half the people there but they didn't bother doing introductions. I tried to contribute to conversations where I could and I offered my services in one area specifically.
I've since done what I said I would do (don't want to be too specific in case any of them are mumsnetters) and have offered help at the local fete and a bunch of other things.
It seems like the more I've tried to help or be friendly, the cooler they have become. Today i went to the local fete and did my shift helping out. The other mums barely spoke to me. People from the committee meeting who I passed and said hello to just ignored me.
I don't smell. I think I'm reasonably nice. Have tried to be helpful without being pushy. have tried to make conversation. And I've been stonewalled.
Am now not sure how to proceed. My DH says I should just say screw them and not offer any more help. But I'm not sure that's going to help my cause. This makes me dread the school years because I get the impression that these mums also run the PTA. sigh. The politics just seems scary.
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Trying to make friends with other preschool mums - tough gig!
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JoshandJamie · 24/06/2007 21:21
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