RE OVERBEARING INLAWS

[saray1]

Hi there Mummies, new to this and I apologise it's long!

Me and my husband have been living with his parents for the last 4 years. What was a request of theirs to live with them (for what should have been 6-12 months) when we initially got married rather than renting, two kids later, a year and a half of searching for the right family home to buy and over a year of complete renovations, we are finally ready to move into our beautiful new home. Living with them has not been without its issues, they both work from home and I look after a 3 yr old boy and a 9 month old girl, I also take care of whatever Admin I can do from home for me and my husbands restaurant, so I never get space or privacy away from them, something I craved and was really looking forward to having finally! I have recently discovered thou that they plan to sell their home and are looking to buy the house on our new street. They haven't said anything to us, it was something I happened to see on FILs laptop, genuinely was not snooping! They've already viewed the property, had a big meeting at the bank, they've had their current property valued (they told us just because they were curious), they've talked about moving before but they have always wanted to move to one certain area, it's obvious they've changed their mind and decided to follow us to where we are going. My husband and I are not happy, especially seeing as our new house is only a 7 min drive away from them, not a massive distance at all and we were ready to finally be a proper family and raise our kids without interference on a daily basis. The thought of nothing changing really upsets me, to state the issues with my FIL I'd be here all day! Also they plan to retire, which means free time, which means they most definitely will always be at ours or expecting us to go to theirs! How do we kindly let them know we know what they're up to without them accusing me of snooping and that we need a bit of distance, please don't move so close by to us?