Hi... Does anybody else feel possessive about their baby and who does anything remotely care related with him/her? I have a lovely 7 month old boy who is a real sweetie... I love him and know he deserves all the attention and love he gets from extended family etc... Sometimes I feel a little envious of this attention and feel like the invisible backdrop behind the baby - even though I know I have had my turn at being doted over by grandparents etc... Also, I'm very used to feeling that Julian is mine and my partner's (in so far as he is anybody's - of course he is his own person), then when we see other family THEY all act as if he belongs to them - especially of course my parents and MIL. I find this hard to deal with - that I will have an ongoing connection with so many different people not because of me but because of my child... I know I sound a little strange and I promise I do want what is best for him and of course all this loving contact is very good for him... but it's as if people sometimes forget that you are the person that gave birth to this baby. My mother for one would be in there with lots of unwanted advice if I didn't keep my distance a little. I'm 33 years old and feel I can manage okay without unsolicited advice. Also (and tell me if I am being ridiculous), yesterday my BIL asked my MIL if it was okay to give Julian a piece of mango - he didn't ask me which annoyed me... I know it's only a piece of mango and not the end of the world, but it's hard to be totally in control at home and then find yourself not-so-in-control elsewhere.
Can anybody relate to any of this or do I have to grow up?
Thanks
Eugenia
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genia · 02/07/2002 20:07
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