My marriage

[510lilly]

Sorry for this being long..,

Me and my now husband got engaged in December. Prior to getting engaged we had many talks about and agreed that a courthouse wedding would be best so we could save the money for a house.
A month after getting engaged he's on the phone talking to his mom, she asking when we are going to have a wedding... she wants to get a cheap flight to the US and says she and his dad can be here in September so we should do it then. That's the first thing that upset me I should be the one picking the date not a cheap fight. He tells her we are just going to go down to the courthouse on our anniversary which is a month away to get married. She flips out and starts crying.
Next afternoon he tells me what happen so we look into what it would cost to fly his parents to the US now he feel he needs to pay for the tickets because tickets would be more expensive on such short notice almost 3k each. I had to mention well what about my parents .... oh well I guess we can pay for theirs too they live in the states. He wants to pay for everyone's hotels in the city and a ceramony totaling 10k for an hour of a wedding at a courthouse/by a lake and only 10 people can go within the ten people are the photographer and the person doing the ceremony so really only 8. We would go to lunch with everyone at a restaurant near the city and pay for that too. All because of his mom. We decide it's to much and he tells his mom we are just going to the courthouse but promises a big wedding for our one year wedding anniversary. But now I'm pregnant and our one year anniversary the baby will be a month old.

I'm most upset about is his mom says not to tell his friends we are married because she is ashamed and also because she wasn't apart of the ceremony because we got married at the courthouse and not spending over 50k that his brothers wife's parents spent on their wedding. AIBU to want him to tell people because I don't want people to think we are getting married because I'm pregnant.

[specialsubject]

What a lot of pointless drama. Why is this foolish woman upsetting you? Tell your husband to tell her to grow up, and she is either civil to you or she shuts up.

Tell people you are married! Ignore this silly woman.

[dglv]

I'm with @specialsubject - you tell whoever you damn want! It's your marriage not hers and if she's got a problem with it then let her!

[510lilly]

@specialsubject @dglv thank you.... I know moms are important but he married me and not his mom btw I have told everyone I know and have posted it on Facebook. It makes me feel better.

[dglv1]

Good on you! It's a massive milestone in your life and I'm glad you've shared it!

(Sorry for slightly different username - muck up with my account and forgetting the flipping password!)