Do you feel life has been good to you? If NO then why....(6 Posts)
and do you have any plans to create a brighter future for yourself?
My life has been very mixed. 3 particular things would definitely lead me to answer "No" to this question. But in reality I have to remind myself that 2 of the 3 things happen to probably a third/half of the population (illness, divorce, major money worries - that kind of thing). The most unkind thing life has thrown at me (a bereavement) is harder to accept and make any sort of peace with.
To answer your second question, yes I do have plans for a brighter future. Whilst also remembering that life is what happens when you are busy making plans!
What about you?
On the outside my life has been mixed. But having a naturally sunny and optimistic outlook backed up with the resilience that comes from coming having a loving family there as support really mean my life is always easy (even when it is hard).
My father feels the same about himself. If you were a pessimist you would say "he drives a Toyota Corolla and is still working at almost eighty". He would say he has had the luck of a lottery winner.
In some ways I've been lucky - I have a wonderful daughter, I own my own home and I was able to travel the world a lot when I was younger and I did a degree I loved.
In other ways I've been unlucky - I've had terrible relationships with family and partners, people have let me down a lot, I've been bullied and really suffered quite a lot; I've never been able to earn much or succeed at anything.
Overall I don't feel too hard done by. There are always going to be people more fortunate and people less fortunate than me. I think happiness is about making the best of everything, not having the best of everything. I don't have a great plan for the future, I have done a lot of things I wanted to do. I would like to move house and travel more, but I don't know how I'll be able to afford to do that now.
1234 I feel as though I had good opputunties in important areas in my life and I made mistakes regarding some of my decisions... which has led me to believe that life has not been kind to me. I was younger so I could blame my poor choices on my age but if I'm honest I only have myself to blame. Sorry for your loss....I worry about bereavement too...one in particular when the time comes..it will be devestation for me.
Thank you for all for your responses...I will try and be more optimistic too...I have good and bad days like most of us.
Love your dads outlook Sally...this is the way we should be!
My problem is comparing my life to others and nasty comments by so called friends don't help to improve my self esteem.
I appreciate I am fortunate in many ways and I must come to terms with the fact that I may not get what I desire in life but to work with what I have got as Name said. .its just easier said then done I guess.
I'm one of those people that make plans but never follow through...that's just me. I hope for a brighter future...if we lose hope then what else is left?
I have made one plan and I'm following through with that so that's a positive for me.
It's hard to get out of a rut of going through the motions of life on a daily basis and lately I feel more and more unnoticed by strangers but I think that's an age thing and why should strangers notice me anyway...I was never a beauty but that's another subject lol
I have moments when I feel that life has treated me very unfairly. Mainly with things like lack of financial security, opportunities, support etc. But most of the time I marvel at how lucky I really have been. With the things that I feel have not been good, I still feel in control of being able to turn things around and improve my situation, for example by getting more training to be able to get a better job, networking to find more opportunities, putting more effort into budding friendships and asking/giving back favours to build a support network.
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