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Should I say something..

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DeviousDaffodil · 24/02/2007 16:26

DS is 6. He was talking about a schoolfriend last night.
" X said he is going to bring a ladder to school so that he can jump off the roof and kill himself. He says he wnats to die".
X is same age, his parents have just split up and the split has been very hard for X and his Mum.
Should I mention it to his Mum?
She has a lot on her plate right now.
Or maybe tlak to their teacher.
I know he is never going to do such a thing, but I feel so sad that a little boy should even think this way.

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lissielou · 24/02/2007 16:28

might be an idea to talk to his teacher, she/he can broach it better

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lissielou · 24/02/2007 16:29

sorry meant to add how awful, the poor thing

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MrsGoranVisnjic · 24/02/2007 16:30

do you know his mother

I would say yes you definitely have to mention it to his mother if you do

personally I think I'd avoid going through school if you know her

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airy · 24/02/2007 16:31

Oh the poor little boy
I think you should definitly say something, personally I'd bring it up with the teacher, his mum is bound to be going trough a lot herself and maybe the teacher can find a very soft way of telling her he's having some difficulties coping with the split.

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MrsGoranVisnjic · 24/02/2007 16:33

if your school is anything like ours most of the teachers in the early years are in their early 20's .. if a person with limited life experience and no children of their own, but in a semi-official capacity approached me about something like that in that kind of situation I think it might make it far more difficult than if another mother who I knew did

maybe you could do it over a playdate? with x and his mother (and any other children?)

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sixlostmonkeys · 24/02/2007 16:41

I'd try and have a word with the mum. Maybe offer your help (if needed) at the same time. If you can, tell her that therapy (via her GP) is great in situations like this, not only for her son but for her too. Tell her an online friend (me) recommends it
Doctors etc take these feelings/expressions in children VERY seriously.

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DeviousDaffodil · 24/02/2007 17:32

I do know the Mum fairly well, we chat on the yard most days, so I know just how hard the split has been.
just feel awful telling her what her DS has said.
I know I should though, feel so sad about it.

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Twiglett · 26/02/2007 12:54

did you talk to her?

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princesscc · 26/02/2007 13:08

I don't think you should involve the teacher imo. Since you know her well enough, she will probably appreciate it from you, more than she would the school. The school should probably know, but she should be the one to get them involved.

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