Advanced search

I've had a horrible night on MN

(31 Posts)
HorribleNightOnMumsnet Tue 20-Feb-07 23:29:56

I replied to a really sensitive thread and I KNOW that my reply could be taken as offensive but I didn't mean it to be. I feel like shit now!

Then I look in active convo's to see that a thread has been started about my worst nightmare topic and I now feel guilty about that too.

I love mumsnet and I've obviously changed my name to post this because I feel like a complete arse at the moment. Sometimes I wonder if I'm too stupid for mumsnet.

SherlockLGJ Tue 20-Feb-07 23:31:46

Maybe you should apologise on the thread you were on.

thelittleElf Tue 20-Feb-07 23:32:39

Oh dear...listen don't worry. I think somtimes things can be taken out of context. I'm sure the person in question realises you didn't mean whatever you said?
I have no idea what this is about but i'm sure you're not a vindictive person, hence putting up this thread!

QueenDave Tue 20-Feb-07 23:32:44

Course you arent. It just happens sometimes. We post thinking of one thing, phrase it a bit 'off', and it comes across in a totally different way.

Dont worry about it, put it down to experience, and just keep on MNing

controlfreakyandroses Tue 20-Feb-07 23:32:46

confused. why should someone starting thread about worst nightmare topic make YOU feel guilty?
as for being thought offensive when it wasnt meant... we all do that sometimes (dont we? ).... i just apologise and move on...
you are being v hard on yourself....

colditz Tue 20-Feb-07 23:33:17

Come on, give us your name. I for one don't bear a grudge, I don't think anyopne else does either.

QueenDave Tue 20-Feb-07 23:33:31

Oh yes, and apologise like LGJ said....

colditz Tue 20-Feb-07 23:34:14

And I often come across as an utter bitch whereas I merely have one eye on the TV and don't bother posting 'conversationally'.

QueenDave Tue 20-Feb-07 23:34:26

I've pegged it as one of two and I know it wasnt meant the way it was posted. If not one of those two - well that just goes to show that it happens ALOT

HorribleNightOnMumsnet Tue 20-Feb-07 23:35:24

I have and the op has said that it didn't offend her but I keep clicking on it to see that other posters are making references. I don't want to apologise again because I don't want to make the thread about me, when it's discussing a very serious issue.

I'm just having a 'I'm crap at everything' night.

fireflyfairy2 Tue 20-Feb-07 23:36:54

If you're who I think you are, then it wasn't intended to offend. The OP said it didn't offend her & that's what mattered on that thread. & you did apologise.

shonaspurtle Tue 20-Feb-07 23:38:46

I think I know the one you mean and everyone has just let it go haven't they? You explained yourself and apologised - all forgotten surely. Just let it go.

WanderingTrolley Tue 20-Feb-07 23:39:54

I have a feeling I know the comment on the thread in question - sometimes it's hard to get a point across acurately without sounding tactless, we've all done it (er, like me, now, possibly.) If you've apologised there's nowt else you can do. Stop clicking on the thread, if it's not making you feel better.

Also don't get what you mean about the nightmare topic and feeling guilty.

HorribleNightOnMumsnet Tue 20-Feb-07 23:40:00

Yes I think you were posting on that thread too FF2. I just feel like such a complete and utter loser for posting what I did, but I got it wrong unintentionally. I don't want to go on about it on that thread becuase it's such a serious issue and the way I'm feeling right now absolutely pales into comparison when I think of what the OP is facing.

I just feel so absolutely horrible at what I said. I feel like punching myself in the face right now.

QueenEagle Tue 20-Feb-07 23:40:11

If you are who I think you are then I think you have already apologised and it has been accepted. Easy for the written word to come over differently to how you meant it. I wouldn't worry about it honeslty!

ComeOVeneer Tue 20-Feb-07 23:40:46

I think I know the one too. It happens, so just let it go.

QueenDave Tue 20-Feb-07 23:43:08

If you are who I think you are, then, I think you know that I know (VVVQV) that things can be said that either arent meant, or can be misconstrued

Dont worry about it, honestly.

HorribleNightOnMumsnet Tue 20-Feb-07 23:47:51

I'm stiller (hoping that people search and reassure me that I haven't just done an absolutely awful thing).

VVVQV if you did recognise me and are talking about what I think you're talking about, then I'm glad that you're alright with me as I am with you. If that doesn't make any sense then please put it down to me being too thick for Mumsnet.

shonaspurtle Tue 20-Feb-07 23:50:07

I thought it was you . Don't worry - you explained yourself well when you apologised.

PandaG Tue 20-Feb-07 23:51:12

I thought this was you too. Do not worry - you apologised, and the apology was accepted. PLease do not beat yourself up about this

QueenDave Tue 20-Feb-07 23:51:19

Absolutely - hence my pointing out my usual name, and referring to the first thread we 'met' on. We have been fine since, no?

It happens

Dont worry.

AitchTwoOh Tue 20-Feb-07 23:55:36

i saw it at the time and gulped a bit. as did you, when you realised how it might have come across... then you apologised and then the person inquestion confirmed that no offence had been taken. i wouldn't give it a second thought from now on, tbh. it's just one of the hazards of posting, as colditz said, with one eye on the telly.

HorribleNightOnMumsnet Tue 20-Feb-07 23:55:51


Thanks VVVQV (and the others that recognised me) - I've got this awful feeling in my stomach that I've just made an unbearable situation more unbearable and I feel gutted. It's obvious why I don't want to bring it up on the orignal thread and why I don't want to use my real name. I just want to kick myself for being such an arse.

lemonaid Tue 20-Feb-07 23:57:57

Your first post did come across badly, but I think you've grovelled enough on that thread for it to be obvious to eveyone that you just expressed yourself badly.

Add one to the number of times you already check each post before hitting "Post Message" but don't beat yourself up over it.

JodieG1 Tue 20-Feb-07 23:58:44

Thought it was you also and agree with the others. The op of that thread understood as she posted saying so. I'm sure everyone knows you didn't mean any harm now.

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, watch threads, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now »

Already registered? Log in with: