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Anybody else not like being home "alone" overnight?

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SecretlycrushingonTomHanks Fri 10-Jun-16 23:19:08

DH is away for a couple of days to do some hill walking leaving me in the house alone for 2 nights with our young DD's. Don't mind being left alone to look after DD's at all but does anybody else pee their pants when left "alone" in their home overnight? I'm so paranoid, every noise is a potential burglar, mad psycho rapist, arsonist etc. DH also does a very odd nightshirt now and then and I'm the same those nights. Is it just me being a big baby or do other people feel like this?

Tiggeryoubastard Fri 10-Jun-16 23:20:59

Do you have other anxiety problems? It's not really normal for an adult to feel that way.

thatsn0tmyname Fri 10-Jun-16 23:21:21

Yes, lots of creaks and bumps. Also, I hate looking in the mirror in case someone is behind me or looking outside to the dark when closing curtains.

OiWithThePoodlesAlready Fri 10-Jun-16 23:24:12

I used to not like it but then I was a single parent for a few years so got very used to being alone (well, apart from dd). Now we live with dp and I actually quite like it when he's out. It's very peaceful!

SecretlycrushingonTomHanks Fri 10-Jun-16 23:28:13

No other anxiety problems no. Just hate being alone overnight. I have never lived alone always with my parents or DH so don't know if that contributes to it. I'm the same with looking into the dark when closing curtains. Don't like looking out my windows at all when its dark. Only if I'm alone though! Gosh I think I must be a big baby blush

SecretlycrushingonTomHanks Fri 10-Jun-16 23:30:00

I like being alone until bed time. Also really enjoy the peace! It's going to bed I don't like! I'll wake up and go back to sleep all night. I just can't settle.

katemiddletonsnudeheels Fri 10-Jun-16 23:31:35

It never used to bother me OP, but then I read a really creepy thread on here once hmm and I was really nervy for a while afterwards. I sympathise flowers Logically you know it's daft but I really was edgy and frightened! Xx

hannahlouise1987 Fri 10-Jun-16 23:32:05

Hello ☺
I know exactly how you feel, my husband has had 2 night shifts every 10 days for the last 7 years and ive hated every single one.
Its really hard to get to sleep on those nights and then im up and down all night its horrible. I even sleep with a lamp on 😅 we had cctv cameras put up covering our house that he can watch on an app while at work which makes me feel better.
Glad to know im not the only one who gets like this.

AnxiousMunchkin Fri 10-Jun-16 23:32:19

Why is something less scary when your partner is there, though?

I live alone, so it's normal to me. DP stays over quite a bit but nights alone are more common. I have a dog though, she wouldn't allow anyone to sneak up on me grin

GertrudeSmellsDivine Fri 10-Jun-16 23:35:14

I used to be like this but I'm not not now. I don't know why it changed sorry. 3 sets of DH being away spaced out over 20 years. The first 2 sets I was awful but the third was fine. Wish I could be more helpful about how it changed sorry.

GertrudeSmellsDivine Fri 10-Jun-16 23:41:28

I managed to get sleep by getting the DCs in the bed with me and pushing a heavy chest of drawers against the bedroom door and had an exit/emergency plan. The second time I realised that I could tie the downstairs internal doors shut so if someone did break in, they wouldn't get upstairs. The front door had many locks. It allowed me to sleep which helped a lot. We were broken into at night when I was young and I think that triggered stuff.

SecretlycrushingonTomHanks Fri 10-Jun-16 23:42:24

It must be because in my mind he's a big manly man who will protect us all anxious😂. I know that's silly but I just feel safer when he's here! I'm so happy to know it's not just me though and that one day it may change and I'll be fine. Would love to enjoy the peace and quiet of him being away a bit more. Here's to a horrid night of broken sleep sad

Lovewhereilive Fri 10-Jun-16 23:43:35

I feel very anxious when DH away - not during the day, only at night. Imagine all sorts - I need to get a grip I know.

megletthesecond Fri 10-Jun-16 23:43:40

If its any consolation I've been a lp for 7yrs and still triple check everything and get anxious at night. Not unusual to go downstairs in the night to check if a hear a noise.

anxious I'd love a sparky little dog for that reason (as well as being cute obvs).

Haggisfish Fri 10-Jun-16 23:45:07

I think it's relatively normal to feel that way tbh!! Not indicative of an anxiety issue. I hate being on my own-if dh died I would take a lodger!

SecretlycrushingonTomHanks Fri 10-Jun-16 23:45:38

Now that you say that Gertrude I can remember when I was very young my parents garden shed got broken into, I had heard a noise and looked out my bedroom window. I saw them doing it but was too petrified to tell anyone.

SecretlycrushingonTomHanks Fri 10-Jun-16 23:47:19

Also * anxious* I have cats that party all night and don't give a damn about me 😂.

Ankleswingers Fri 10-Jun-16 23:50:05

I completely sympathise with you OP, I don't like it either. Not one bit.

My DH is away next week for just over two weeks with work. I am dreading it.

Seriously OP, I could have written your thread. You sound just the same as me.

I double check all windows and doors are locked X 20 times. Then I leave loads of lights on too. That's how I cope- I also try not to look out of the Windows , it just scares me even more.

passportmess Fri 10-Jun-16 23:50:05

My dh is away since Monday and will be back Sunday. I'm pretty anxious anyway but also am quite deaf. I sleep much better since a smoke alarm for hard of hearing was installed. There is a buzzer/vibrating pad under my pillow. I think part of my anxiety relates to the responsibility to get ds out in the event of a fire. He sleeps on a mattress in my room, the door is locked and I have an escape route planned in case of fire. Sounds mad but I am sleeping okay this week. But no, I don't like being home alone overnight.

passportmess Fri 10-Jun-16 23:53:24

I check everything is off and locked too. Then I don't come out of my room at all until daylight!

SecretlycrushingonTomHanks Sat 11-Jun-16 08:19:05

Thank you everyone! Had a kind of rubbish sleep but will survive on some costa coffee today! I hope everyone else that was on their own managed to get some sleep! flowers

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