I am absolutely at my wits end here so will be glad for any advice at all.... my daughter is just 21, she announced to me last week that she is pregnant by her boyfriend of 3 months. He is a lovely man and I couldn't wish for a better father for her child - however..... she has just this week lost her job and after 2 weeks salary in lieu of notice will be unemployed. Also, accommodation came with her job so she will be pregnant, unemployed and homeless. The boyfriend is standing by her but he lives at home with his parents. Obviously I will have her home until they sort themselves out but my fear is that she is not as 'in to him' as he is her. She has never shown one ounce of wanting a baby (at any time, she always said she never wanted them) none of her friends have children, none of our family do, she has not yet met his family and doesn't like his friends (says they are too nerdy for her liking!)
I have a house which I rent out and she has asked if they can have that at the end of this tenants lease (which I could renew if they wished). If I were sure she is 100% committed to him I would agree, but I'm not. I am terrified that in a couple of months she will not want to be with him and the novelty of being pregnant will have worn off for her.
I truly don't want to sound awful but there is no way I could have her home here with a baby - we fight like cat and dog at the best of times which is one reason she moved out in the first place.
I love her but at times absolutely cannot abide her - she is rude, selfish, a snob (god knows why) and looks down on people and I am frankly embarrassed by her.
At the moment the plan is for her to come home while the boyfriend saves enough money to rent a place for them, in the meantime she will be job hunting and then they will move in together.
Is it awful of me to say they can't have my other house, is it awful of my to not want my daughter to stay with me at this time?
I am not sleeping, I feel sick, what do I do? Please someone help me or give me some advice....
Thank you
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redwiner · 27/02/2016 17:37
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