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I am writing instructions for DH if I die, what do I need to put on it?

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FabBakerGirl Sun 09-Mar-14 18:14:13

So far all I have is my phone pin, email password, a list of who to tell (friends) and instruction to shred my diaries. I can't think of anything else. Makes me feel really unimportant.

His for me will be all official stuff - insurance, pension, bank etc related.

MikeLitoris Sun 09-Mar-14 18:31:12

Does he know your preferences for organ donation?

MyNameIsKenAdams Sun 09-Mar-14 18:32:56

A list of people who arent to be invited to the funeral grin

MrsPresley Sun 09-Mar-14 18:33:43

Funeral arrangements, songs, readings flowers etc

FabBakerGirl Sun 09-Mar-14 18:41:57

He knows I want to be an organ donor and that I want to be cremated. We have recently done our wills so that was covered but the rest I hadn't thought of, so thank you.

yegodsandlittlefishes Sun 09-Mar-14 20:21:08

Social media passwords and instructions of messages to leave/what en to close account.

Where your will is.

Who to give things to and what to say to the children.

canyou Sun 09-Mar-14 21:23:50

If you are to have a memorial card or service booklet what picture to use and update it every few years

canyou Sun 09-Mar-14 21:28:18

What bills are paid where and how they are paid, how to use the washing machine/hoover/lawn mower,
Contact phone numbers and addresses for extended family -- including his family--

PigletJohn Sun 09-Mar-14 23:28:27

Quite apart from practicalities of bank accounts and passwords, there ought to be a personal letter as well. It will be your last chance.

CuttedUpPear Sun 09-Mar-14 23:29:48

Watching thread to make notes.

BobPatSamandIgglePiggle Sun 09-Mar-14 23:31:37

What would you want him to do with your things? Charity shop etc?

Funeral songs

K8Middleton Sun 09-Mar-14 23:44:51

My letter, when I get round to writing it, has details of things like how I would like the children to be brought up. General but important things like religion, education, morals, residence, politics etc. Also a expression of wish for funeral, living will sort of things and a summary of financial holdings. My computer login maybe, although dh has admin rights so could access it himself but my family could not.

K8Middleton Sun 09-Mar-14 23:46:07

Details for how to access the family photos in the cloud! I forgot that.

FabBakerGirl Mon 10-Mar-14 13:13:38

Our will has covered everything official and he pays all the bills so knows everything. Really it is only personal stuff I need to tell him. I am the one who needs to know what official things I need to know.

I would choose a wedding photo on the funeral service and our wedding music at the funeral.

QuiteQuietly Mon 24-Mar-14 22:02:25

Do you have DC? I was unwell a few years ago and a list of "who does what, when & where" would have been useful. Also list of DC's friends names & numbers.

And for my DH at least, a list of his relations' birthdays and instructions for various household appliances...

DrinkFeckArseGirls Mon 24-Mar-14 22:09:09

Navis fuck right back onto this thread <lady vapours>
It's a fecking dictionery's word, you know?!

DrinkFeckArseGirls Mon 24-Mar-14 22:09:46

Omg, so sorry. Wrong thread...blush

ghostinthecanvas Mon 24-Mar-14 22:19:39

Drink your spelling.......

DrinkFeckArseGirls Mon 24-Mar-14 22:22:14

I was in the hurry... blush again

I was only lurking and put this thread on my watch list to take some pointers down.

ghostinthecanvas Mon 24-Mar-14 22:26:29

I know its a serious thread but you really made me laugh. Do you have something to help with the serious vapours you must now be experiencing?
wine wink

onlyjoking9329 Mon 24-Mar-14 22:27:36

Combination number for the safe, or at least where the keys are kept. I had to have safe ripped out when DH died, to access birth certificates wedding certificates ect, always a good idea to know where those things are along with passports. Insurance, premium bonds, shares.

TheNightIsDark Mon 24-Mar-14 22:28:05

Place marking for ideas.

DrinkFeckArseGirls Mon 24-Mar-14 22:43:38

I'm sober, ghost! Scout's honour.

ghostinthecanvas Mon 24-Mar-14 22:49:15

grin I never doubted it. I am offering you a wee glass of my lidls finest to help you feel a little better. I am not usually so generous but I actually had tears of laughter. My DH was hmm which made me worse.

archshoes Mon 24-Mar-14 22:55:31

Is there a reason you are doing this now?

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