Egg donor wanted please?(32 Posts)
Is there any amazing woman out there that could be our egg donor to help our dream come true?
Well about me/us I am 44 and was trying to conceive for five years before having a 9cm ovarian cyst rupture and cause both my tubes to block :-(
Another 4 years passed somehow! I then had my amazing son through IVF and decided that I we were so lucky to have him we should be happy with that.
I was 39 when I had him and last year I suddenly lost my dad and two months later my uncle who were both to young :-( I would not of got through last year without my sister we both have helped my mum so much and gave each other strength to carry on through the really tough times. This made me realise my son would not have this as he is an only child.
Me and husband talked and decided to do IVF again and went for all the tests and were told that my amh levels were so very low and that my chances would be under 5% with OE. :-( we were shocked but on reflection were pulling the wool over our eyes as I am 44!
We brushed ourselves down and decided donor eggs are the way forward and that is that really to have a sibling for my son I need help from a lovely lady.
I am white British 5'3 BMI 30 blonde/light brown hair, blue eyes, have been catering manager, childminder, nanny, foster carer and now I teach baby massage to mums with new babies.
Anyone wanting to know anything please contact me.
Sue, Sandy and Alex
Hi there you would need to speak to a clinic about being a donor and they would talk you through everything and you would need various blood tests to check lots of different things are ok. Ultrasound scans to check your uterus, tubes etc. Counselling to make sure you understood everything that would happen. You would need to inject drugs during the cycle. You would have scans to check the growth of the follicles that eggs grow in. the drugs create more than one egg and then you are told when to do a trigger shot and then 36-48 hours after you have the eggs collected and it all goes from there. You can also claim up to £750 compensation for travel etc. hope this helps.
Does geography matter? Im in hampshire am I too far away?
I have just found a great explanation about what happens I will put below.
Location only matters to you really if you wanted to try help me my clinic is in Farringdon in the City of London so would depend on how long that would take you.
Selection of Egg donors
Potential donors should be aged 18 years or more and not over 36 (unless there are exceptional circumstances) and preferably of proven fertility. You can donate eggs for your relative or friend or to an anonymous recipient. Please note that since 1 st April 2005 so that children born from donor egg treatment (or donor sperm treatment) are now entitled to know the identity of the donor when the child reaches the age of 18 years.
All donors will have blood tests to check their chromosomes, and also for HIV antibodies (AIDS), Hepatitis B & C, CMV and Cystic fibrosis.
Will I receive payment for donating my eggs?
No. Donors will have all transport expenses and other expenses reimbursed up to £750 but there is no financial remuneration for the actual donation.
Will donors remain anonymous?
The law has changed since 1st April 2005 so that offspring of donor egg treatment (and donor sperm treatment) are now entitled, if they wish, to know the identity of the donor when the child reaches the age of 18 years.
Clinics have a legal obligation to record a donors name and all relevant details about her. The Human Fertilisation and Embryology Act 1990 requires that the names and details of all donors must be registered with the HFEA. It also makes the unauthorised disclosure of these names a criminal offence. In general, the only people allowed to know a donors name are the members and employees of the HFEA, and staff covered by an HFEA licence at a clinic. In the same way, the names of the woman treated and any resulting child are confidential and cannot be passed to the donor. Note that the HFEA has a legal duty under the HFEA Act to tell adultswho ask whether they were born as a result of treatment using donated eggs or sperm. People aged 16 or over, who ask, can be told whether they could be related to someone they wish to marry.
What information will the recipient be given about me?
All information will be non-identifying, and will include information you provided on your registration form. We try and match donor and recipient physical characteristics as closely as possible, however, we advise the recipient that the results of this cannot be guaranteed.
Will I have a continuing responsibility to any child born following the donation?
No. Donors have no relationship in law with any child resulting from treatment using eggs that have been donated and no obligations to or rights over the child. At the time of donation you relinquish all legal rights and claims over any offspring which may result from the donated eggs, and all duties towards it.
Will I be held responsible if a child born from my donation is disabled in any way?
It is your responsibility to inform us of any genetic or inheritable diseases which have occurred in your family. Failure to do so is an offence. A child born with a disability because a donor did not disclose information about an inherited disease in her family which she knew about, or ought reasonably to have known about, may be able to sue the donor for damages. However, provided a donor is open and honest about her medical and family history, this is extremely unlikely.
Will I receive counselling?
The HFEA guidelines state that skilled and independent counselling by someone other than the medical practitioner involved in the procedure must be available to the donor. We encourage you take up the offer of counselling, however, it is not compulsory. You should ensure that all your questions are answered and that you understand all the issues involved and that you have sufficient information to make an informed decision.
What will happen if I change my mind?
Donors must give informed consent to the use and storage of embryos produced from the donated eggs. Consent is given by completing and signing a form supplied by the HFEA to the hospital, before any treatment begins. This consent may be withdrawn or varied at any time except in respect of an embryo which has already been used.
Donors will be asked to give consent to the egg collection procedure. Donors are free to withdraw consent to the egg collection at any time before the operation.
What are the steps involved in Egg Donation?
Initial Hospital visit:
This involves a consultation with a doctor who will record your full family and medical history as well as explaining in full, the potential medical and surgical complications of the procedure. He or she will also discuss the social, ethical and legal aspects of egg donation. Your permission will be obtained so that we can write to your General Practitioner for confirmation of your medical history. The different steps in egg donation will be explained. Consent forms will be discussed. The implications of the screening tests especially HIV testing will be discussed and it is then left to you to decide if you wish to proceed.
Drug treatment to control your cycle and stimulate your ovaries:
In general, donors will receive three forms of medications.
Nafarelin or Buserelin: is given as a nasal spray two or three times a day. The function is to suppress your own reproductive hormones and enable greater control over when the eggs are produced.
Gonadotrophin: This is a course of daily subcutaneous injections to stimulate your ovaries. Your will be taught to self-inject using a special easy to use auto-injector.
HCG (Profasi): Approximately 34-38 hours before egg collection you will be required to have this injection subcutaneously, same way as you have been having the gonadotrophin injections. This injection is timed so that the egg maturity is complete and egg collection can be performed prior to ovulation.
3) Egg Collection:
Eggs are collected through the vagina using a needle guided by ultrasound. This is done under intravenous sedation, rather than general anaesthetic.
What are the possible side effects of the medications?
Nafarelin or Buserelin spray or injection work by suppressing the production of hormones from the pituitary gland in the brain which stimulate the ovaries to produce follicles. After approximately 10-14 days administration of Synarel, the normal function of the ovaries will be switched off. This allows for more control over the development of follicles in response to the administration of fertility injections. It also prevents spontaneous ovulation. Once the ovaries are switched off and the oestrogen level in the blood is low, some women may experience symptoms which could include hot flushes, feeling of depression, irritability and headaches it is perfectly safe to take paracetamol if needed. Whilst taking the nasal spray your period may be different from usual (sometimes lighter, but it may also be heavier). These symptoms usually disappear once fertility injections are commenced.
Possible treatment risks to the Donor
These risks are small. There may be mild side-effects noted with the drugs, such as hot flushes and irritability. Sometimes a sensation of bloating in the lower abdomen is noted. Following egg collection there may be lower abdominal pains but these usually subside.
On day 9 of injections an ultrasound scan is performed to see how many follicles have developed. At this stage it may be clear that the egg donor has responded excessively to the injections and has produced too many follicles. To avoid the development of more serious side-effects known as Ovarian Hyperstimulation Syndrome (OHSS), the final injection and egg collection may have to be cancelled.
Despite careful monitoring, a small number of women may develop a mild to moderate form of OHSS. Cysts may appear on the ovaries and fluid may collect in the abdominal cavity, causing abdominal discomfort. It is usually treated by bed rest, drinking plenty of fluids and taking simple pain-killers. The cycle may have to be abandoned. Very rarely (in about 1% of cases) the response to the injection is excessive and a large number of eggs develop causing the ovaries to swell. Side-effects such as nausea and vomiting, abdominal pain and swelling, and shortness of breath occur. A patient may also feel weak and notice a reduction in urine output. These serious complications require urgent hospital treatment to restore the fluid balance and monitor progress. Women undergoing ultrasound-directed egg recovery may notice a small amount of blood in their urine or from their vagina for a day afterwards. This is quite common and should not cause concern.
What about sexual intercourse during the cycle?
We usually ask you to refrain from intercourse from day 9 of the donation cycle until after the egg collection. Following the egg collection we advice you to use some form of contraception (usually barrier contraception such as condoms or diaphragm) if you engage in sexual intercourse.
If you are still interested let me know and I can either put you in contact with my great fertility nurse at my clinic or look at where you could contact for you nearer to where you live.
i dont know that id be eligible as I have PCOS on one side? But I will research further. Having struggles with my own fertility Id like to help if I can x
If you wanted I can give you the phone number of my Fertility nurse if you wanted an informal chat and she can answer questions for you.
I will discuss it with my DH and do se research, but thank you x
We certainly don't want to pour cold water on this but we wanted to post that it's best to be aware the egg donation can have legal and health implications and isn't to be entered into lightly.
You can find more info at hfea.co.uk
I think this is an amazing thing to be able to do for someone but DH and I would like more children in the next couple of years so I don't think I would be suitable but this has been interesting to understand for the future. good luck Sue!
I would just like to say I know all the health implications and legal implications and in the long post i wrote earlier above your post if you read it through it tells you all the good and bad things and everything would be above board and dealt with by a clinic licensed by HFEA.
I am very aware this wouldn't be entered into lightly do you think that if I had a choice I would not be going down this route and having my children naturally with my own eggs?
Thanks everyone else for your lovely positive comments
Sue to be fair to Olivia she is only doing her job, there is no need to get snappy with her. She is just pointing anyone considering doing this in the direction of some impartial advice, that can only be a good thing.
Good luck for the future.
I looked into it before but at 39 I'm to old
Really didn't mean to offend; that's really not what we're about.
It is our standard policy to post up this advice in situations like this.
Masses of luck in your search and onward journey
I donated eggs last year, my recipient had twins
I donated via altrui, they help match donors and recipients, they may be able to help you op
Waves to 5madthings, hello!
Another Altrui donor here too. egg donors will get implications counselling so you'll understand the legal and emotional issues.
My lady didn't get pregnant sadly. If we weren't ttc our own now I'd happily donate again. There isn't much to it in the great scheme of things and although its a fairly long process from start to finish, there's only 2 weeks where you're taking the drugs and the egg collection where it's pretty intense.
Good luck op, I hope you find your special lady to donate.
Sorry Olivia I shouldn't of snapped :-( I have had an awful few weeks my husbands gran died and while at the funeral we got a call from the kennels saying one of our boxer dogs had died of a heart attack only 7 :-( (never put in kennels as have dog sitter but she could not do last minute) and then my agency gave us a donor that did not even turn up to her first appointment and refused to answer any emails phone calls etc which is up to her but this went on for a month keeping us in limbo hoping all was well. Just one phone call to say she was pulling out would of done. The agency has not dealt with this very well and we are getting some of our money back and hence back to the drawing board when this all started in April.
Wow lots of lovely ladies on here that have helped give people there dreams you are amazing selfless woman.
ill be happy to be your donor, ive wanted to do it for ages but at the moment im already pregnant (25 weeks) so cant do anything just yet.
im 27 n have the fertility of a rabbit... this is my 4th baby, and theyre all happy healthy kids.
I am breastfeeding at the moment, does that rule me out?
Honey wow how lovely 3 healthy children and one on the way how exciting is that. You must be one happy mummy :-) good luck with the rest of your pregnancy you must be hot in this weather carrying baby number four around. Thanks so much for saying that you would be my donor f you are serious maybe in the future look into it. It is a truly amazing thing to do.
Nachoaddict - I don't know for a fact but I would not of thought that having any of the drugs needed to do the IVF would be ok for someone breast feeding as it would pass over into the milk but again if you are interested in the future look into it as there are so many woman like me needing help from lovely ladies.
Take care xx
I will bear it in mind when we finish. Every woman should have chance to become a mother of that's what she wants.
Good luck the right donor is there somewhere!
If anyone is at all interested still at any point in the future to help me or anyone else please contact my Clinic here is the link to an online form.-
Thanks so much
Hi there, I am sorry to hear about your situation and wish you lots of luck in the future.
I am a 20 year old white, healthy student living in Wales. I will be leaving for university in September to become a nurse.
I have a big interest in fertility/reproduction and hope to become a fertility nurse one day. With this interest, I have read about egg donation and think it is an amazing gift to give a woman/couple. I have deep empathy for those who cannot conceive naturally and hope I can help someone (whether it be through my own egg donation, and/or working in an IVF clinic one day!).
However I would feel uncomfortable with an anonymous relationship as I think you cannot make a huge decision that will impact so many lives without having at least, occasional contact and updates. After research, I believe it is more safe, especially regarding any possible medical updates that may affect the family.
I am a young woman who is not ready for her own family but I would like to be aware and hear about the child from time to time. I dislike the 'pricey/anonymous/buy a baby' side of the fertility world and would rather focus on two women coming together and sharing something incredible. I dont wish to be involved in the childs life as such, but would like to be treated like a distant friend when it comes to any special/important updates.
I wouldnt wish to get rich from another persons misery, however a small finical contribution would help in order to help with university fees. Whatever you feel is appropriate and affordable.
I really wish you luck on your journey to become a mother! x
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