Over the last few days I 've had to admit to myself that doing the nursing degree, for me, is just not feasible [frustrated emoticon].
It's not that I'm worried about being able to cope academically etc, but the fact is that my DH is very often out of the country at least one/two nights a week, and we have no family nearby to help with those (inevitable) times where my shift pattern and DH's overnight stays will overlap. Obviously once I have qualified then I could shop around for a position where there are no night shifts etc, but in the meantime I have to take what placements I'm offered (by the Uni). I've got a place on the access course and I'm due to start it in September, but already I've had to re-arrange my appointment to attend the presentation evening due to DH's work schedule. In fact, he has had to juggle his schedule in order to accomodate this latest re-arrangement because I told him that I really couldn't ring them again to cancel and re-arrange.
DH's job is not all that flexible, he is the Director of his department and therefore it is not possible to delegate his responsibilities for 99.9% of his overnight doo-dahs. The fact is that his salary pays our (hefty) mortgage and puts food on our table therefore we have to dance to the corporate tune (most of the time).
I'd love to bring out my bra-burning side where my 'right' to a career is concerned, but the facts are that I have to compromise for the family as a whole. As parents, we all do to some extent.
I still want to retrain but the fact is I cannot do shift work (unless we got an au-pair - which isn't an option). I have to resign myself to the fact that I need to do a job that fits in with the 9-5 side of things, but a job that pays reasonably well and that I will enjoy going to every morning. Figuring out what that is, is incredibly difficult. All I have ever wanted to do is work in the NHS, but the problem is that the majority of the hands-on professional jobs within it are shift-based.
I don't know what people can suggest really. I just need to rant, tbh. Thanks for reading if you've got this far !
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Depressing thread about why I can't do nursing training and asking for your help with suugestions for my other options, please. (pretty long)
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NomDePlume · 02/06/2006 20:08
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