Judge me.

[ggglimpopo]

Feeling generally shit at the moment - dd1 is a whole thread in itself with her teen angst and passive aggressive crap, then have dd2 who is failing at school, dd3 who the teacher describes as "precocious" and dh in a foul mood this morning.

I stupidly decided to take dd4 and do a full weekly shop on a Friday morning. I had a heaving trolley at the check out, as did the woman in front of me, who was half way through bagging her stuff. I realised that I was going to be late picking up the little ones and would have to leave the shopping in the car when I collected them. It is hot here today. I pushed dd4 in the trolley, safely strapped in (with my straps, French supermarkets have none) and when she was level with the woman at the till, said that I needed freezer bags and I was going to leave dd strapped in next to her and run back and get some.

She shouted "Madame, YOU WILL NOT LEAVE YOUR POOR BABY NOR YOUR HANDBAG HERE" And then tutted. Everyone turned round to look at the child abuser that was giong to leave her 17 month old alone and at risk in the supermarket. The people at the till next to me started whispering how irresponsible people are. I had to stand there for hours whilst the person in fronts stuff went through, then mine, with the pursed lips of the bitch woman at the till saying it all.

I was late for the children and had ameeting with ds1's teacher, who told me that in her opinion he was immature and struggling and should stay down a year. I burst into tears.

So judge me. What the f*ck am I doing?

[ggglimpopo]

pathetic weepy bump

[expatinscotland]

Aw, ggg! Hope it gets better soon!

[charliecat]

You were having a shit day and stupid checkout woman was making it worse. Did they do and get the f*ing freezer bags for you?

[Twiglett]

what the f'ck are you doing?

you're juggling the most stressful job in the world

deep breaths .. it'll be better soon

PS did someone get you freezer bags?

[Blackduck]

ggg from what I know of you from MN and what others have said I'd say what you are doing is trying to be a good mother and partner and not doing a bad job of it actually. So dh was in a bad mood - never mind, so some stupid woman in a supermarket gave you the evil eye - you are not a bad person or mother. Know its tough at the moment, but hang on in there - and (like Cod) I don't usually do this {{}}

[ggglimpopo]

No. No they didn't. Fukding supercillious French cow.

[Marina]

You won't get any judging from me, just a sympathetic acknowledgement of your angst gggl. You know how much I love France but I still feel checkout assistants in the Super-U trained at the same off-planet processing plant as UK GPs' receptionists. They can be scathingly rude, especially at the sniff of an English accent.
I am so looking forward to this year's tussle of wills at Carrefour in Cite d'Europe :(
Courage, brave maman. You are entitled to feel rubbish with everything flying around at the mo, but NOT entitled to think that makes you a rubbish mum.

[ggglimpopo]

This was Carrefour.....

[Marina]

I rest my case. Hearts like pickled walnuts, the lot of 'em.

[ggglimpopo]

I am cleaning out the fridge and having a little self-pity weep.

Crazy how the little things make the big things seem ten times worse. Ds's teacher scuttled off to the staff room to tell them all what a neurotic mother he has, sans doute.

[Bugsy2]

You poor thing. Nasty, mean woman at Carrefour. What a mare you are having at the moment.
Lots of sympathy & very much hoping things get better.

[ruty]

Lol at pickled walnuts Marina. ggg, so sorry you had such a rotten day. Stupid woman. I remember we were in Chambery in a posh [ish] restaurant and my Macedonian dh asked for an English menu. You should have seen the look on the waiter's face. Sheer disgust. I wanted to crawl under the table.

[Twiglett]

can you phone / write to complain or would that be as useful as a chocolate teapot?

[ggglimpopo]

The fridge has just died - with all the weekly shopping in

Unbelievable.

[serenity]

fingers crossed this is your whole months allocation of crap events, just all happening in one day. The rest of June will be sunny, happy and carefree. Can't you just find a good reason to shoot over here for a few weeks? Leave them all to it.....

[wilbur]

ggg - I can't believe your white goods have got it in for you too. Sorry you are having a crppy day, on top of the other recent crppy days, but I echo what others say in that you are doing a very hard job and have a huge amount on your plate. Have you got anyone who can help you out for a while to give you time to think and realise that things WILL be okay?

[HarpsichordCarrier]

I do that all the time - leave a child at the check out to fetch the thing I have forgotten.

the woman was ROOOOOODE and I would have complained.

poor you it sounds like you are having a miserable time

[niceglasses]

Honestly,why couldn't she have just said she would keep an eye on the baby and your bleedin handbag? Some pple go out of their way to be arsey I think. Poor you. You sound like your doing a fab job with 4 of them.

Wine?

[motherinferior]

I've left mine at the checkout - ffs, probably the safest place in the damn shop...you poor love.

[handlemecarefully]

I've done the same myself whilst I sprinted over to an item on the shelf that I forgot. Hardly crime of the century is it!

[meowmix]

no sorry, I refuse to judge you. You're having what is technically known as a shitstorm. As with rainstorms, brainstorms and sandstorms it'll pass. In the meantime come shelter under the mumsnet umbrella.

Dunno if you've seen Finding Nemo? If so this is a "just keep swimming, just keep swimming" moment. If not, I played the leggy blonde all the boys loved.....

am no good at cyberhugs but here is a special cyber fridge for you. []

[ggglimpopo]

I don't know which woe is me thread to put this on, but as this one is active:

The good news - the fridge is making hesitant humming noises (think it overheated)

The bad news - dd1 has not come home from school. Again. I have no idea what to do or who to turn to with her - do I ring the police (again), the school is now closed, we have confiscated her mobile....

[Piffle]

Too much on your plate GGG
Wish I could say something to help :(
Hugs?? (())