WIITs take things to the third thread, hoping the Gruffalo stays in his bed.

[100years]

Old thread in here

Welcome to the third WIIT thread. Are you all ready for more action?

Recent stats as follows :)

JBells PG#2 arrived! Luca John born 16th May at 3.10pm
mrswantstobeamum PG#1 EDD 17th June
Squirrel007 PG#1 EDD 13 July
WYorksLass PG#1 (boy) EDD 25th August
100years PG#1 EDD 1st Sept. Last working day 29th July
Nannyl PG#1 EDD 13 Sept
Strawberrypie PG#1 EDD 8th October
WhyWait PG#1 EDD 22st November
MrsSatsuma TTC#1 since Nov 2010
ShaggingWithIntent TTC since April 2011
AmandaCooper TTC #1 June 2011
AstroZola (hopefully) TTC#1 September 2011
BebeJones It's really complicated, TTC#2 at some point soon
Quodbilet TTC#1 sometime in the future

Settle in for more action and adventure.

[bebejones]

Great title 100! :) Marking my place for now, will be back later to catch up on action! :)

[jbells]

Also marking my place. Love the new title :)

[bebejones]

Just thought I'd bring the Gruffalo in to get him settled! :o

[100years]

Glad you two like the title :) ummed and ahhed over it for a while

Had to do this today as I'm back on shift again as of tomorrow, so very little time to MN and the old thread would be full up by the time my shifts were over next week.

Have rung the midwife this morning, haven't heard yet about the physio, and wanted to know what the wait was. She said she would fax another letter through to them with urgent on it, we are away next friday and so would love to get in before I go. Not sure it will happen, but I can hope.

No news yet re the GTT, they said I would know by 5pm today.

[ShaggingWithIntent]

Loving the title!!
Can't believe we're on WIIT thread #3 already.

My testing day is 2nd June (10DPO and 1 day before AF due to arrive) so hopefully I'll be able to hold out until then and not use the internet cheapies that are sitting in my bedside cupboard....!

Hope that the results of the GTT are ok and that you get your physio booked in asap.

[AmandaCooper]

Just marking place.

[AmandaCooper]

Thanks for the new thread. Love the title! Those dates may haunt me over the next few months though if we don't go ahead!

I was looking forward to starting the next bus but this latest job interview has really chucked a spanner in the works. On the plus side, it seems to be just about carrying us through this May OV without accidentally on purpose ttc! I really want to see it through the whole three months of diet and daily folic acid and no caffeine - and after this weekend the risk of giving in to temptation and starting early will have gone.

[jbells]

Well i spoke to soon about me and dp! Thatl teach me to say things r going well

[AmandaCooper]

Why, what's happened?

[bebejones]

Oh no Jbells, what happened?

[100years]

Oh no, the gruffalo needs to come out so soon :(

Fingers crossed they don't haunt you AC.

Well, I feel like sh1t today :( poop. Had paracetamol with my breakfast! Off to work in 5 mins. :(

Didn't hear back re the GTT, so I'm presuming it was all clear, got appointment with consultants on Wed anyway so will poss find out the actual results then. And Physio is booked for 15th June. That'll soon come round!

Hope everyone is settling in nicely to the new surroundings, and is having a good weekend.

[nannyl]

marking my place on the thread
will reply properly soon

[jbells]

Well basically he kicked off bcause i didnt want him.going out last nite

this wk baring in mind im recovering from csection he has played a footy tournament last sunday and bin out to the gym on mon nite weds nite and fri nite. I sed if he didnt go to the gym fri then to go out sat but that i was feeling like crap and wud prefer him here. He sed ok and that he chose to go gym! Then last nite he kicks of saying hes sick of me telling him wot he can and cant do so wot if hes bin the gym 3 times this week its not his fault im sad an mn is my hobby! Among lots of other horrible things he told me he doesnt hate me he despises me. He then chose to sleep on couch

Dont know how much more i can take just petrified of coping with both kids on my own finding the toddler baby combo very difficult at mo :(

Sorry for me me post

[AmandaCooper]

JBells that's awful and it puts my errant DH and his stupid "maybe" (now "maybe but definitely not if you get the new job") into the shade with its wankerness. I don't have any suggestions but I'm appalled for you, you're recovering from major surgery, you need help. Forget the fucking gym it won't hurt him to miss a few sessions. So angry for you.

[bebejones]

JBells how DARE he!!! Csection is MAJOR surgery. It's not like you are asking him not to go to work, it's the gym, he can miss a few sessions FFS! Really sounds like emotional abuse. xxx

[squirrel007]

Oh jbells that is awful :( I am normally the most laid back person when it comes to DH doing his own thing, but even I would draw the line at regularly heading off to the gym while we had a newborn. And the fact that you have a toddler too, and are recovering from major surgery... just makes it worse.

Do you have any friends or family around who can pop round and help you?

[jbells]

Thanks for reassuring me that i am not being the unreasonable one. He keeps twisting everythin around untill he almost has me convinced i am being unreasonable. It does feel like emotional abuse. He thinks if he helps in the day it means he shud b able to.swan off and do wot he likes at nite.

I know ill b better off without him in the end but its just a scary move.
Squirral my mum is close by and helps when she can but she works ful time and my 2 brothers still live at home and she has her dog to sort so shes always got her hands ful. My best friends havnt got kids so they hav no idea wot its like and just wudnt think to help. To b honest im feeling pretty alone with all this right now. Dont really feel like i can speak to anyone people xpect u to b really happy when youve had a baby and i font want to get labelled with pnd. Im so happy with my kids as hard as it is just everything else sucks rigjt now

[AmandaCooper]

What? How's he justifying it? Surely if you've got a partner who's had a major operation and two little children, one a new born baby, the starting position is that you can only go off somewhere if it's absolutely essential.

[squirrel007]

No, you're definitely not being unreasonable jbells.

I know you say your friends don't have kids, but I'm sure they would jump to help if you asked. They might not know what to do, but it always helps to have someone listen. I hate to think of you dealing with everything alone.

[jbells]

There prob sick of hearing me moan things hav bin bad for so long now and nothin changes its just so hard to leave sumone when 2 young kids r involved. He thinks y shudnt he b able to go out when he wants

the day of the surgery partners r allowed to stay at hosp with u but there is only a chair for them to sleep in i asked him to stay bcoz i cud barely move and he sed wot where do u xpect me to sleep got in a huge mood complaining he wud get no sleep and ended up argueing with me. I mean u wud hav to really hate sumone to bhave like that but agen his dad and mates aparantly agree that how dare i xpect him to sleep in a chair i shud hav wanted him to go home an rest :(

[AmandaCooper]

Do his dad and mates independently agree that a new father cannot possibly be expected to sleep in a chair beside his partner's hospital bed, or have they just agreed with the facts as presented to them by your dp? Because there's a difference. My DH is fond of telling me all his mates agree that he's right about X,Y and Z after presenting them with a massively skewed version of the facts.

Look the medical professionals at the hospital who put the chair there for that express purpose clearly think it's reasonable. And most blokes muck in and spend the night in the chair. So basically what your dp's mates are saying is that they all think he's such a pussy that he has to be treated differently from a normal bloke.

Did he in fact stay with you, or did he "go home and rest"?

[AmandaCooper]

By the way if it cheers you up at all, after a romantic evening last night, DH asked me in all seriousness if I would consider a second kitten instead of a baby.

[jbells]

Bloody hell men ey. I hope u told him a stern no

ye he stayed and was moody the entire nite an nxt day
it just shows how much his feelings hav changed to me ehen we had dd partners wernt allowed to stay and he was distraught at leaving me and really panicky this time he cudnt wait to go

[AmandaCooper]

Yeah well just goes to show how far DH is off understanding the whole having children thing I'm going to put the goalposts on wheels so we can just shove them along steadily ahead of us as we go.

I'm sorry your DP isn't stepping up to the plate and that you're unhappy at what should be a wonderful time. Just keep moaning to us if you need an outlet, it's reciprocal after all.

[jbells]

Hes packing his suitcases