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AmandaCooper · 03/02/2011 22:19
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jbells ·
03/02/2011 22:34
erm not sure really, things have been up and down with us for a while, hes gone to bed. he doesnt seem to want to make any effort to make things better and i cant stay living in limbo. dont know wot to do for the best spend life thats not terrible but its not good, or have a life as a single mother with 2 kids 
guess the best thing to do would be go to sleep and pretend the whole day didnt happen, doesnt help that were going thru this when im 25 wks pregnant
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04/02/2011 11:18
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jbells ·
04/02/2011 11:53
thanks whywait- fingers crossed you will get on this course, i have always thought about doingthe pgce just never know whether ive got the time and motivation to actually go thru with it 
bebejones ·
04/02/2011 16:31
Been thinking about this Nannyl - and I know you probably don't feel up to much at all at the moment. But that 'care' is dangerous. You were lucky but someone else might not be. Please complain when you feel up to it. I'm just in such utter shock that you were treated like that. Disgraceful.
I just had a mug of hot cordial & have eaten loads of homemade shortbread (which I feel a bit guilty about...I still have 9lbs to lose & have been very naughty lately) feel rubbish & have sent DH to Boots on the way home to get me some Night Nurse. I need sleep!
one for me.... (for anyone else who wants to join me!)
jbells ·
04/02/2011 19:53
its soooo upsetting isnt it bebe u can see them crying out for there attention :( i know that DD must get bored just being with me all the time and there is only somuch time and effort i can put in with her b4 i get to the end of my tether or run out of things to do
he got in a quatre past 7 when i was putting her to bed so hasnt seen her at all, i cant even look at him it makes my skin boil, when i am working on those 2 days a week i am running out of work to get to her even tho its only been 6 hours. i just feel like work comes b4 the happiness of our family constantly he works for virgin for god sake not like hes a brain surgeon saving lives
sorry for rant if i dont get it out on here i will end up argueing with him and i havnt got the energy would prefer to not talk at all. oh and he came in and if he baths her i always go into the bathroom while he puts her to bed and pick up the clothes, nappy etc, he went to the bathroom left them on the floor, went in the bedroom made himself a cigarette in the mean time i put her in her cot pick up clothes and stuff put a wash on, clean up kitchen and front room and he is still outside smoking nd has not helped at all... yet the irony is he was telling me yesterday how much help he gives me i wish i knew what help this was
jbells ·
04/02/2011 20:12
bebe im so glad to have someone that understands my DD is like a whilwind she is on the go constantly whenever i am out and about with her people always comment on how i must be worn out keeping up with her (i am) and on the washing front i know exactly wot u mean the other day DP came into me in the morning and ask where his boxers were i sed in your draw or the clean wash pile... no there not the ones i wear 4 work oh rite well if u know u need something clean y cant u put a wash on, funny creatures these men, cant live with them, cant live without them
the main thing i wish is that they had any idea how tiring it is to look after a toddler and try and keep a house organised, apparantly going to work is much harder i have done both and i would say SAHM is the harder of the 2
bebejones ·
04/02/2011 20:26
Working full time in a job you hate - hard work & miserable
Being a SAHM with a newborn - tiring, but fairly easy (even if it doesn't seem it at the time)
Being a SAHM with a toddler - exhausting! Mentally & physically!
Love how these men just assume that we know what they need/want to wear day to day without them actually telling us!
Last night DH asked me if he washed some socks & put them on the radiator if they would be dry by morning (this was about 6.45) I said yes, so he takes a pile downstairs. At 8pm I go downstairs & the washing machine isn't on, I think it must have finished...no! Ask him why he didn't put it on 'Oh I didn't know what settings to use, but I did put the detergent capsule in'! I must have told him how to work the damn machine a hundred times! It's not rocket science!
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jbells ·
04/02/2011 20:46
lol thats hillarious
DP works in a job he really likes tho (mayb to much)
i mean dont get me wrong i wouldnt swap staying at home with DD for going back to my fairly easy decent paid job ever, i love being with her (most the time) sometimes it wud just be nice if he recognised what hard work it actually is
were both sat in the living room and have been for the past hr and have not sed 2 words to each other... the silence bothers me more than argueing i think another glass of virtual is in order :)
bebejones ·
04/02/2011 21:00
I am sat with my laptop MNing, DH is sat with his laptop playing a game & watching the rugby. We ought to load up MSN messenger & have a conversation!! (He doesn't talk to me when the rugby is on coz I apparently say stupid things , like 'It's just a game!'
)
I hated my job, but I would go back if I really had to (although technically what I did before doesn't exist) but I was working for his company anyway! I wouldn't swap being with DD though. Everytinme she does something new or learns something I feel so proud...I taught her to do it!
nannyl ·
05/02/2011 11:56
im really sorry...
i still havent caught up and i really need a hug.
OH is understandabley finding it difficult to deal with me being so sick at the moment...
when i came out of hospital on thursday afternoon i felt really quite well "un sick" (had man flu / cough & back ache as well, but the not feeling sick bit was bliss)
thought my anti sick tabs were woking and id be back to my normal self...
if only.
By lunch time was feeling poorly and by the afternoon was feeling sh!t. Had been dry heaving.
I didnt actually vomit until 5mins after OH arrived home though...
apparently its attention seeeking, all in my mind etc. i was being sick "for him"
He made it quite clear and he thinks its rediculouse and all in my mind.
spent all evening vomiting (joy) and was DESPERATE to keep down my anti-sick tab
so at 11pm i took it, and did the lie absolutely still / dont move a muscle thing. (I think unless you have been this sick you dont understand how important it is to lie COMPLETELY still, and just concentrate on breathing....)
a while later but within the hour OH came to bed... i didnt couldnt move, and when he started to try and cuddle me i had to say "no" (couldnt say more than "no" as it would have induced vomiting)
managed to keep my tablet down and my morning one down at 7am too (though feel no better for it)
I suggested i try travel bands round my wrists, and could OH go and get me some... they are in the next town 3 miles, 5 min drive away but OH cant drive.
He was very cross as 'all im thinking about is me' and i did snap with the "its not my fault you dont drive" which really really upset him.
He has man flu and just wants to sleep it off and he has to think about me....
i made him come and sit next to me, and tell me whats wrong.
he thinks its rediculouse that i am sick... that i am sick because i have read it can happen, and that is why. "placebo effect of knowing it might happen"
he said "1st you felt sick... then you were sick, then you were sick lots... then you had to go to hospital... JUST LIKE YOU HAVE READ MIGHT HAPPEN"
The drs at hospital said to expect to be sick again and even to be going in for a drip again.... and now you ARE being sick again
he GENUINELY believes i am somehow making it happen and its happening cause i read about it
he even said "i bet if you didnt know you were pg you wouldnt have been sick at all" 
I feel so hurt.... he does NOT understand that i have no desire at all to feel so poorly and its NOT in my mind and theres nothing i can do.
Its NORMAL BEING PREGNANT FFS.... so he goes on... "trust me to be in the 1% that has hyperemisis"
Id do anything to feel better right now. anything at all.... hence wanting to try some travel bands...
so i was saying "ALL my friends and family are 250 miles away, YOU are the ONLY person ive got to help me" (he thinks i need to just get up and live normally... no moving makes me sick... i CANT)
so he thought perhaps i should just go home....
would he like to arrange me to go home?
Said no but he seems to think thats the best place for me.
he is so cross. while i can understand that its very frustrating for him, i just cant deal with the fact he thinks im somehow ill on purpose / its my fault that im ill.
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