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mufti · 11/06/2009 19:38

not looked at this topic much, but ds does watch and latch onto and copy other children a lot.
it seems to me anyway, at toddlers he copies , and at playground he will often latch onto others and follow them around
it gives me quite a pang to think he is desparate for the company of other children
or the other angle,he is just being friendly and sociable
anyone else expreinced this?

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Drusilla · 11/06/2009 19:40

I think it'a normal for any child regardles of how many siblings

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mufti · 11/06/2009 19:42

i can spell , s/b desperate and experienced, trying to be quick

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mufti · 11/06/2009 19:43

thats good to hear thanks, just dont know

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teafortwo · 11/06/2009 20:32

Yes yes yes - absolutely normal development... It is completely natural.

Copying is a learning technique all mammals use (- think about all those adorable wildlife on one shots of lickle lovelies tryin' to copy a bigger (sometimes only slightly) version of him/her - elephants, gorillas, lions and.... eeehhem... even us humans we all copy to learn!) and it really is a very good learning technique to hone. Children who are big copycats often go on to do very well academically.

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poshtottie · 11/06/2009 20:51

Mufti, my ds is exactly the same. Sometimes he looks so regected it breaks my heart.

How old is he?

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MadBadandDangerousToKnow · 11/06/2009 21:31

When my daughter was a toddler she also used to follow children around - within five minutes of arriving at the park she always had a new friend! I don't think she did it because she was lonely. She could play very happily on her own but if she saw the opportunity to play with other children she would take it.

It's a very normal toddler thing, I think.

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Mulanmum1 · 11/06/2009 23:43

I'm just chuffed that my DD is so confident and gregarious that she happily latches onto other kids if she wants to join in the fun. She's certainly not desperate or neglected

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mufti · 12/06/2009 07:24

POSHTOTTIE , he is 3 at the end of this month

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poshtottie · 12/06/2009 07:40

MUFTI, mine is 3 next month.

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mufti · 12/06/2009 07:45

isnt a lovely age
im thinking of new inventive answers all day long, to questions like, "why is this my house?", and, "whats mrs punch (as in punch and judy), doing?"
and constantly being asked what day it is , and what are we doing today
is yours going to preschool soon?

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 12/06/2009 07:48

Enjoy it..my DD is 2.7 and doesn't even look at other kids...she has suspected ASD..and as a result she is not learning things she needs to as quickly as she should!

So see it as a good thing.

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mufti · 12/06/2009 08:00

fftm , oh sorry, that must be hard
when will you find out ?

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 12/06/2009 08:02

oh no, it's fine, I just wanted you to see the copying as positive

She is being assessed at the moment, and has actually shown great signs of improvement in last month so could even just be a delay, we will just have to wait and see what happens.

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mufti · 12/06/2009 08:05

was she early?

he was copying the 1 year old next , when he was crawling yesterday, i guess im more concerned that he may copy more unsavoury things, or ,more importantly, something dangerous
sure i worry too much

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mufti · 12/06/2009 08:05

1 year old next door i mean

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 12/06/2009 08:09

she was 4 and a bit weeks early, and has low muscle tone and other issues.

I am so pleased though, she just copied me feeding her, and popped a Cheerio into her toy Tiggers mouth!!

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mufti · 12/06/2009 08:11

aah
ds has just been trying to feed his teddy

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poshtottie · 12/06/2009 08:26

MUFTI ds is starting in Sept. He is going for 3 mornings to start with. It is attached to the school so its a big step, (I'm crying about it already)

He copied two toddlers in the park the other day and as they weren't talking he was trying to make the same sounds as them.

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mufti · 12/06/2009 08:50

the same here poshtottie, its a whole new world isnt it. i think mine will love it, i will just have to go in and help out a lot i think. sob

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