11 year old fearing high school

[Moon90]

Wonder if I could get some advice, my daughter has been up all night crying again because she's scared of starting high school, a bit of a back story is she's currently getting checked for adhd and anxiety with cahms and she's struggled most of her primary school years I mean she does try her best allways has but unfortunately is still behind, she loses focas easily and tends to day dream alot she feels annoyed with her self when she realises she's been stuck in a day dream instead of doing work. She's very hyperactive and can annoy other class mates and friends a lot she's actually lost a few due to her allways being so loud and excited and she knows why but she can't change her personality and as I allways tell her she has friends that love her for who she is and they show it every day but she's starting to get concerned she'll lose them too if she doesn't "change" before high-school. Tonight she just broke and said she's scared of being alone, she's scared of the fact she's so behind that she will get bullied for being stupid (she's not stupid, very smart and I keep reminding her that intelligence isn't just about writing and knowing numbers) I point out all her good qualities but because it's not academic she says I'm just trying to make her feel better, I am not sure how to get support for her considering this pandemic it already took 6 months for the mental health team to get an appointment with us. I really wish I could help but really don't know where to start and it's starting to affect her mood. Does anyone have any experience with the same problem and can maybey give me a little advise on how to help her, thanks.

[Disneyvillain]

Hi OP sorry to hear your daughter is struggling, hope she’s feeling a little better the last few days. I can’t be of much help I’m afraid, my own DD is nearly finished secondary school - but she’s still anxious about starting sixth form. If you ask on one of the education boards you might get some more practical advice on how to support her move. Best of luck x

[gingganggooleywotsit]

Poor thing definitely get in contact with the school maybe their pastoral care staff could give her a call and reassure her about starting? You could also request that she is put in a class with a friend from primary (if they are going) due to her anxiety? My dd was scared too If it’s any consolation she was ok after the first few days it was the build up and thought of it that terrified her.