Hi all,
I had my first ds September 2017, I felt like everything that could go wrong did do, I had to be induced due to reduced movements at 39 weeks, baby was back to back and I had an epidural for the pain, I had a 24 hour labour, and needed ventouse and forceps, managed to get him out on third attempt as they were about to take me for section. The pain was immense even with the epidural and felt my self tear from front to back. (3rd degree) then pph and lost 1.5 litres had to be rushed to theatre for surgery. I have no memory of holding ds when I was finally out of surgery and he was about 8 hours old by the time I had my first cuddle with him.
It turns out I was also anemic, which they had missed during my pregnancy, so needed two blood transfusions before I could go home and a prescription of iron tablets.
I'm an anxious person anyway and felt like I never wanted to put myself through it again, dh agreed.
Almost two years later and I struggle to think of ds as an only, I always pictured two? Although I'm greatful each and every day for one healthy boy!
Now we have started talking about a possible second, but how on earth do you make that decision?
I worry my anxiety would be bad having a second, dreading the Labour? Feel like it would be nine months of hell! Plus I'd have no idea if to try for a second natural birth or a section this time?
I know some people have much worse labour's but I really felt lucky to get through it last time. I feel like I'd almost be pushing it too much to even consider it again?
Sorry to ramble.
Just wondered if anyone had been in a similar position, how did you make the decision?
Thanks.
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Nicecupofcoco · 14/07/2019 17:33
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