Guilt about only child

[hayc1991]

Hi. I've been thinking about this for a while, and going back and forth as to whether to have another baby or not. I'm starting to feel really guilty about my son being an only child. I'm not an only child so I know the benefits of having siblings and I know if I didn't have them my childhood wouldn't have been as fun. However, after having my son I suffered really badly with post natal depression and anxiety, the anxiety is still here today but I'm slowly learning how to cope with it better, so I'm just so worried that having another baby would put me right back in that situation again and I'd have my son to think about this time not just me. Just looking for thoughts and advice from people who have 1 child, and are feeling a similar way to how I am

[sushinelove]

we have 1 Ds age 13, had crossed my mind to have another so he wasn't a lonely only, but circumstances meant it never happened. I actually asked him a few weeks ago if he felt he had missed out not having brother/sister and he hasn't. He likes being an only, likes that he gets undivided attention if he needs/wants it, likes spending time with us etc. He's really social, not remotely spoilt and has cousins to fight with if he wants the sibling experience. Id be inclined to say have another baby if that's what you want to do, don't do it just because you think your son is missing out

[hayc1991]

Hi. That's so nice to hear, that's one of my biggest worries that when my son is older he'll tell me he wished he'd had a brother or sister. His cousins are all quite a bit older so unfortunately he doesn't have that. He has started nursery fairly recently so I'm hoping in time he'll start making friends, and bring them home to play with, whichll take the place of having siblings. X