.. that she doesn’t have a sibling.
Not intentionally- she’s only 3 and not quite that manipulative yet.
I’ve always swung between being happy with one to my wanting to give dd a sibling- I’m under no illusion that it would be for her benefit rather than mine!
She’s obsessed with the idea of having a sister! Calls her friends her sisters. Asks why she doesn’t have a sister and while I know it’s just the innocent ramblings of a toddler, every time she does it I die a little in side and feel like a rubbish mum.
Financially we can afford 2 even if I have to drop a few hours at work. Our house is big enough but I feel like I have my life back now and seeing friends trying to juggle two kids doesn’t exactly sell me on the idea of having another.
I’ll sometimes be in the middle of doing something (usually when I’m feeling harassed) and try to imagine what it would be like with another child to deal with an it just seems like it would be so hard that my mental health would suffer!
I just wish I was a better and more selfless mother who could give my dd what she wants - or that my brother and sister would get a move on and have kids then she’s have baby cousins to play with which would help matters.
How do you cope with the guilt and explain to them why they are an only? Once she’s older I can tell her that I did try but it didn’t happen (3 mc’s and several months of trying but not conceiving) but she’s a bit young for that now!!
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jinglebells123 · 13/04/2018 23:22
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