I have 9 month old ds who I love to pieces. He has not been an easy baby and things are only just starting to get a bit easier little by little. DH wants us to eventually have another baby but I'm undecided. We're both not getting any younger and if I'm going to do it i would have to start thinking about trying after ds turns 1. I don't want to be too old as pregnancy has been hard enough on my body this time around and I also don't want too big of an age gap.
Reasons why I'm undecided:
I havent enjoyed the baby stage and I'm liking that things are getting better and will continue to get better. I feel like I'm only just starting to get some of my life back.
I don't know if I can do it all again especially with another child. The thought of a new baby and then baby/toddler ds on top of that terrifies me.
I've also been thinking how much I hated being pregnant. I feel I would have about 2 years where I'll be miserable until the second baby gets past 1.
It has cost a fortune to have one let alone 2.
I don't know if I can put up with no sleep again as ds literally has only just started sleeping most nights. I feel I was better equipped to deal with baby number 1 and the sleepless nights as I was more rested beforehand compared to now!
I would love ds to have a sibling to play with and would love to have two children as know it will get better eventually but i feel like I'd be putting my life on hold and my happiness on hold for 2 years.
I worry I'll regret it in the future if I don't have a second and dh will be disappointed.
It keeps going around and around in my head and I just cannot make my mind up. Advice please?
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PasstheStarmix · 16/12/2017 10:46
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