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Pros to being a one child family?

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MrsWineasaurus Tue 16-May-17 08:28:35

Me and DH are 95% certain we are happy with having our one DS after 4 years of TTC for baby no2 we've decided we quite like how life is and tbh it's very nice finally being able to relax and to focus all our attention on DS and also both being able to work too!

I just need a little bit of help getting that extra 5% out of the way, so please tell me your pros to being a 1 child family. X

thethoughtfox Tue 16-May-17 11:29:06

A happy, confident child and a peaceful easy to manage household and social life (dd's). We can give her our full attention so she is chilled out and doesn't need to act out. Life is easy to manage so we are all less stressed and happy. She is happy spending time on her own unlike most of my friends and my own sisters who have always been around other people and can't entertain themselves even as adults. And she can friends and cousins over and as many activities as she wants.

thethoughtfox Tue 16-May-17 11:30:44

Extra disposable income, less childcare costs and fewer years where childcare affects how many hours you can work.

EmeraldIsle100 Tue 16-May-17 11:34:24

A happy healthy baby and a calm household. I have more than one child.

Sophieelmer Tue 16-May-17 11:38:08

Going to restaurants and having civilised conversation! I have more than one.

helterskelter99 Tue 16-May-17 11:42:30

We needed a lot of Ivf to get our one so we have no choice but bar a miracle
I think it's ok to be a little bit sad re only one and he can tweak my heartstrings re siblings at time BUT as a family we roll good as a three we can all fit in one bed we can afford holidays (& we've done some cool things and he's only 4 as I think that's how I compensate with myself that it is "better" for us just to have one!

He goes to school next year and we will be significantly better off a month we're not going private but could if we needed to which we couldn't with more

Life is good we are lucky xx

hiveofactivity Tue 16-May-17 12:17:31

For us its having more time.
We both work so don't have oodles of time with dd. Its nice to feel the time we do have isn't rushed, can be spent doing what dd wants to do, we can talk/listen to her uninterrupted. More than anything she just wants our time and we want time with her.

If we had more than one child that time would be halved and shared. (But then dd would have time with a sibling instead which would be great in a different way.)

MrsWineasaurus Tue 16-May-17 14:27:40

Thank you my lovelies. Exactly what I needed to hear.

My parents, mainly my mum are devastated at the fact we aren't having any more so I kinda felt guilty about that, but I am honestly so happy and content with my one plus the pressure of TTC has completely gone which is great!

Now to plan what fun things to do with DS!

Minimusiciansmama Wed 17-May-17 19:26:15

It's just me and my girl and has been her whole life. She's a talented dancer and musician & cos she's my only, I can give her my time and energy to support her. We go off and have weekends away on the cheap because family/friends have a double bed spare where they couldn't so easily if we were a big family. She's good at amusing herself and good at being around adults, but still good at being the cheeky wee 7 yr old. Financially, supporting more than one child I couldn't do on my own without sacrificing the life my girl has. I was sad for years about never having more children, but I'm ok about it now. We love our life. She's very sociable but also loves having her mama to herself when she wants me. There are wonderful things about having siblings. There are wonderful things about just having my one too.

PumpkinPie2016 Mon 29-May-17 19:55:44

We have one who is 3.5 now and although I occasionally think of a second, we are sticking to one.

My pros to having one are:

We can give our son all our time and attention.

We can go to all of the parties/activities he wants as we don't need to consider another child.

Financially, things are easy but I think with two we may be stretched.

Now ds is getting older things are much easier and I can't imagine throwing a new baby into the mix now.

squizita Wed 21-Jun-17 19:41:08

More time, energy and indeed cash = less heart-tugging compromise.

I have an only.
I was from an accidentally large family (accidentally due to multiple births and cousins we cared for). Dsis was much younger - after we all flew the nest life was clearly simpler, and in the thick of it my parents had to have tough "one, some or none" choices (eg one got into music school, but we cant afford all ... but that one is very good. What to do!?).

So much simpler with one.

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