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user1484154332 Tue 17-Jan-17 11:19:20

Hello everyone,

I have a gorgeous 8 month old boy yet I find myself struggling most days. Prior to
Pregnancy I was self employed and had quite a high-powered job. I've always been introverted,however, and enjoy my own company. I'm also an only child and live away from any family and friends.

We moved in 2015 before I knew I was pregnant and now I completely regret it. I'm not driving at the moment so I feel like my only options are to walk everywhere which is great and has its benefits but in days I'm not feeling well I'm in conflict between hating staying in feeling lonely and bored and having to get up and physically move.

To make matters worse, my periods returned when my little one was 3 months and they floor
Me. I get flu like symptoms and all over body aches and sometimes it even hurts to pick up my little boy.

I wish I lived closer to friends. I wish it was easier to make friends where I live!

bummedmummy Tue 17-Jan-17 18:20:22

It sounds as if you're not cut out to be a SAHM, and that you miss work. That's not unusual! Are you planning on going back to work?

Dangermouse1 Tue 17-Jan-17 20:02:46

You sound pretty down. Firstly, are you getting any sleep? If your baby will sleep in the cot for his naps, I would sleep then. If not, make it your mission to get him to do it! It's a lot easier to drag yourself out to a baby group in the morning if you know you can rest later in the day. I would personally recommend going out every day. It takes a long time to meet and connect with people but if you keep getting out and about you should eventually find someone you click with enough for a daytime coffee at least. You haven't mentioned your dp. Is he supportive? Can he help with night feeds or weekend mornings to give you a break - if you're introverted you're probably craving a bit of personal time. Would reconnecting with friends / family help - could you go for a visit or would they come and see you? Is moving back to the area an option in the longer term.

Also may be an idea to ask for your post to be moved to chat or parenting as this board isn't that busy and your issues aren't really specific to having one child

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