Hi all
Does anyone have any advice or experience with encouraging an only child to play independently?
My DS, 4, always wants me for his playmate and absolutely refuses to play by himself. Recently I've been really resenting this as I don't enjoy playing (happy to do more projecty stuff like painting or baking but the "pretend to be an octonaut" thing drives me round the wall). I'm not quite sure how this has happened - before I had a child I was determined to have a kid who was reasonably good at entertaining or herself but opposite seems to have happened!
I think part of the problem is that on some level I feel guilty about the fact that he's an only child (although I'm very happy with only one) - and also, let's face it, I'm crap at standing up to the tragic weeping creature who suddenly appears whenever I suggest he plays by himself.
He's in school (where he plays by himself ok according to the teachers) and we do the usual play dates and activities out and about. But I DO think that this playing alone thing is an important skill for him to learn - not just for my own sanity, but also because I'd like him to learn to resolve his own boredom without resorting to me or wanting the TV. I don't mean for hours, but perhaps for 30 minutes at a time seems pretty reasonable. And I want to do this now, when he's still quite young.
Anyone else in this situation? Anyone made this kind of change successfully? Id love to hear some shared experiences.
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bummedmummy · 15/01/2017 19:51
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