I have a 6 month old ds who I absolutely adore. I'd love to have another, but realistically can't afford to for at least a couple of years (I completed a qualification just prior to ds's birth, and the nature of my work means that I need to consolidate that with experience before I can take significant time off eg maternity leave to be sure that I can return to that work afterwards). I'll be going back to work full time in 3 months and DP will be working part time and doing the majority of the childcare. I'm 32, so it wouldn't bother me to wait a couple or a few years to have another baby. My worry is that DP is 50, so would be well into his 50s when the hypothetical 2nd child was young. He just does not see this as an issue, he's very healthy, very youthful, and has more energy and patience than I do. He loves our son and loves the idea of more children. He's a fantastic father and is delighted to have the opportunity to look after ds while I work. He'd be happy to do the same for a subsequent child. I do know how very lucky I am, both to have him and to have our lovely son, but I feel like I'd be pushing our luck to have another, in case something happens to him, or his health deteriorates while the children are small. I also feel like I might be stealing his opportunity to relax and wind down as he gets older. It's difficult to discuss this with him because he can't see what I'm worried about. Part of the problem is that he is extremely laid back and I over-think everything. What do people think? Are my concerns valid or am I making a mountain out of a molehill?
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