Hello,
Me and my husband have a fantastic and beautiful 2 yr old daughter but getting her into the world was very traumatic and subsequent events have left us wondering whether just having our little girl is just the way it should be for us for the reasons listed below:
- I had hyper morning sickness for 8 months in pregnancy and was totally house bound by it and have a 95 percent chance of it being the same next time.
- I had a 56 hr delivery ending in forceps and a SEVERE life threatening hemmorrage.
- I have 2 prolapses that are manageable as they are but may well get worse with a future pregnancy and birth.
- I had to have an operation for an excruciating tear i developed in birth that caused me pain every day for 7 months that nay return with a subsequent pregnancy.
Now after all this me and my partner always said no way to another but we started to get broody and after having an elective c section agreed we decided to try again, i got severely sick and my mum had to come and take my daughter to all her toddler classes and to the ducks and everything and i started to feel i was going to miss out on the next 9 plus months of her life, sadly at our 12 week scan we were told that we had miscarried we where devastated and a D&C and 2 cervical infections later we would still love a second and to give our daughter a sibling but we really are considering just enjoying her and having a family of three.
I just want ppls reactions to this, am i justified in not putting myself through another pregnancy and possible further ops to give my daughter a sibling?
Thanks for your time x