I have just the one dc, one of my sisters has 2 dcs, other has 4 dcs. I love all of my nieces and nephews very much, and am particularly close to the sis with 4 dcs.
I am on here to tentatively explore how I feel about xmas and birthday presents and am hoping for support and advice in exploring how I feel. In the past I always spent the same on my nieces and nephews, as my DS would have spent on him. (obv say if this is £10, I am spending £40 and £20, sisters are spending a £10 on my child) so I am spending much more than they are. We don't buy for grown ups with kids. One year my DS received a very small present (which he already had), whereas I had spent full amount on each DN, amounting to a lot of money when I was very much struggling financially. Since that year I have sought out bargains throughout the year, this way DNs still all get a nice present from me, but I am not spending money I don't have.
Dsis with a large family has commented before a few times on how pleased her dcs have been with Bday money they have received (from other relatives, not me), and had been put out when she realised my mum had spent a couple of pounds more on my one child's birthday, than she had on any of her 4 dcs. It really was only a couple of pounds difference.
Today she has mentioned to me she is going to ask for certain vouchers for her dcs for Bdays and xmas as they have just enjoyed this particular chain today. Probably thinking less room taken up and dcs won't be spending cash in Game or something. The last couple of years I have managed with getting bargains and offers and affording it all that way, but having to hand over vouchers then that won't happen! Any ideas on how I can broach this subject without a falling out?
Other sister with 2 is rather hit and miss, often forgets DS's birthday but I am in no way allowed to forget her 2 dcs birthdays, in fact that's usually the only time I hear from her - well that and before xmas. I always get her 2 dcs something nice though and wouldn't dream of not getting them anything.
I guess I feel a bit about it all, and a teensy bit resentful. I know I am probably being unreasonable and I don't want a bashing which is why this isn't in AIBU section.
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boredandrestless · 22/12/2011 13:48
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