We have a DD of 9m. I am now keen to talk about trying for a second, if not now then in the nearish future: I am just 41 so don't want to delay too long, and (less importantly) am considering retraining. My DH is mostly not in favour, though he has not ruled out possibility totally. The problem is I can't seem to find a
way for us to discuss it without him getting wound up.
I am totally drained as still night feeding (once) and recovering from a bad month recently of 2-4 wakings per night, so haven't quite got energy to really push, plus have the inevitable concerns about taking on another child and how we would cope if s/he not as easygoing as DD, but somehow it I trust I would love another, which would double the joy, and would love to give DD a sibling of we are able.
One of DH's greatest concerns is how he could love another child enough (he is a devoted father); he is also worried about our time and cost, though we both have okay paid jobs. I gather it is not so unusual for men to want one only?
Any advice on how to open a better conversation or progress this?
Seems rather personal but after months of
trying and not getting anywhere not sure where else to turn.
Thanks.
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scarecrow22 · 30/09/2011 22:45
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