No 'mummy' friends

[Alunsmuma]

I am a young mother with an 16 month old little boy, dad works long hours and none of my friends have babies. I go to an adult education centre four hours a week where my son is in a creche but other than that he has no contact with other toddlers. Finding baby groups really clicky so most time is spent just me and him at home or the parks or with my childless friends. I'm in full time college next year so he's going to be an only child for a long time yet so worried about him having freinds. Anybody else been through anything like this?

[lozwp]

Hi there,

I can relate to some of what you're saying as I have moved areas a couple of times and have had to start meeting other mums anew each time. My advice would be to give the groups a chance. If you can get to a couple of groups on a regular basis then after a few weeks you should find it easier to 'fit-in' for want of a better word. And in the meantime, I'm sure you son will really enjoy playing with different toys and interacting with the other children. This is what I am telling myself now anyway as I have just moved (for the last time I hope!).

Also, I'm sure some children centres run a 'young mums' group' which I think are for parents under 25. You could ring the Family Information Service to find our where the nearest one is to you?

Hope that helps.

Good luck

[fedupandfifty]

I wouldn't worry too much about it yet. in my experience, littluns don't start to make friends until they're about 4 anyway and by then he'll be in nursery or school and you will get to know other people soon enough.

[CharlyH]

Also, try the Mumsnet local board. Lots of people use their local board to find mums nearby in similar circumstances. Worth a go?

[zoekinson]

Ask your HV if there are any classes you could go on,
Sure start centers run stuff for parents,
ALso dont be so quick to assume toddler groups are clicky, try going for a few weeks and talk to people. i spent the best part of 3 years in different church halls and i have never been in a click of any kind.
good luck.

[suzikettles]

Don't worry too much. Will your ds be going to nursery or a child-minder when you go to college? He'll have plenty time getting used to being around other children then.

I wasn't a big baby group person, and most of my closest friends don't have children so ds didn't have the NCT/toddler group thing going on when he was that age. I went back to work when he was 12 months though and he's also a master at making friends in the park, soft play you name it.