Hello all, i'm interested in your experiences in being a single mum of an only child, which I think may be different from having a partner plus an only child.
I find that because there are just 2 of you in the family the dynamic is different and the adult/child barrier more muddied than when there are 'parents' and 'child/ren'. My dd, 10, has been a bit like my partner, going out with me, watching TV with me, etc. She sees herself as my equal. That has pros and cons - it's hard not to treat her as more adult than she is, and to want to confide in her, as the only other human in my orbit at the time; she's very confident talking to adults and is not cowed by authority; but she can act very 'entitled'. At the same time I can be overfocussed on her, and sometimes we quarrel like siblings!
She has a very strong personality, so a lot of this may just be as she would be anyway. Recently she has become more keen to hang out with friends, and to be more 'bored' by me and my friends, which I'm sure is normal healthy development, but invevitably feels a bit of a rejection at times, since we have been so intertwined!
What does everyone think are the pros and cons, from the adult and the child's point of view? Any tips?
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elizadoo · 01/11/2010 16:24
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