During the last three-four weeks DS (2.5) has become increasingly reluctant to stay in nursery even though he never had problems before. Now he clings to me, holds one of my legs and refuses to let me go, they take him from my arms (or legs) and hold him for a while but many days I still hear him crying while I'm leaving, and today when I asked about the problem they told me that it's taking him between 10min to 1 hour to settle in, eventhough he has been going to this nursery most of the week since he was a small baby and always seemed fine.
In one hand, I understand the problem may have been caused by some disruptions in the routine at home. DH was travelling a lot during July, my mother was visiting and DS skipped some days at nursery. On the other hand... well, he has started telling off everyone with the words "you are sooo, sooo naughty" which he uses along a very strong gesture with hands and face. So, lately everyone and everything that gets across him as "misbehaving" it's either a naughty mum, a naughty bus, a naughty laundry basket, a naughty door, etc. He has also become very agresive, he has started to kick me and hit me, and if he hits himself against something he not only hits back but tries to bite the object in question (a bit OTT but he has bitten back the slide, doors and the laundry basket )
I spoke to the nursery about the use of the naughty word and they told me that it was their policy not to use labels with the children and suggested he brang the words from home but then... we don't speak English at home!!! and his contact with other children out of the nursery is practically unexistent. They also told me that it was my fault by taking him in just after he wakes up from his afternoon nap, but then they also told me before that DS was very unsettled because I was taking him from the nursery just after lunch (and I have changed him to afternoons since then and on their recommendation).
The nursery has been great in many aspects and considering he has been fine there for almost two years I feel reluctant of finding another one. But is there something that I may worry about or something that I can do to help him feel happier about staying, I know it may be just a phase but then, there are good ways to go throug the phases, aren't they? Any practical suggestions?
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Chandra · 02/08/2005 00:09
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