DS is 2.5, has been going to nursery for 18months now, and still gets upset being dropped off there. He was going 3 days a week when I was at work, and every day was so horrible leaving him behind screaming. I did the same thing every day, kiss goodbye, mummy will pick you up later, love you etc. but tried not to prolong it too much. He eventually started to settle and not get upset a couple of months before I started mat leave (so a year after he'd been going there).
Since being on mat leave with DD, we've dropped him down to one day a week, - it was going to be 2 days, but he got so traumatised that it wasn't worth it for any of us. Now DH drops him off on his way to work, but the mornings getting ready at home aren't great as DS says constantly, no nursery DS stay at home with mummy and DD, takes forever to get ready and still breaks his heart when DH drops him off. Last week, he was upset all morning, generally he settles within 5-30mins. I've done him his own special little photo book to take in, with pics of him having fun with us all, I've given him a special teddy and blanket off mummy, which he sometimes insists on taking in, and am at my wits end with what to do now.
Has anybody overcome this, or, if you work as a CM or in a nursery, what would your advice be to parents in this situation? We've kept him in whilst I'm off so he's familiar with the children and staff when I return to work next year, also so that he gets interaction with other children and a bit of "me time" for himself - the staff reassure me he has fun when he's there and I've seen when I pick him up he's enjoying himself.
We've wondered if we should pull him out now, look around at other nurseries and see about starting him somewhere else from fresh next spring before I return to work, when he'll be 3, so that bit older, or wonder if this would be even worse? I can start him at play group for a couple of mornings a week now, which is at the primary school just round the corner, which I wondered might also help? - I should say, he's quite a sociable little boy, so isn't shy around children when he's used to them.
TIA for any suggestions.
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bethdivine · 02/09/2009 09:32
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