dd (just 3) has been at the same nursery full-time since she was 4 months old. She has recently "graduated" into the 3-5 year old room, and seems to have settled well, although she is the youngest of a fairly big class. Having said that she is happy and confident, and very good verbally- can easily hold her own in conversation.
Yesterday, she was playing on her own in the sitting room, putting 2p pieces into and out of a little purse. She dropped a few on the floor, and said to herself "you stupid little girl", before picking them up. She said the same thing when she stumbled going up the stairs this morning.
I'm certain that dh and I have never used those words at home (we might use the word "silly", but never "stupid"), and can only assume she has picked them up at nursery. I was intending to have a word with the nursery manager when I dropped her off this morning, but she (the manager) wasn't there. When I took dd into her room, there were 5 or 6 other children there already. The nursery nurse was being a bit abrupt with them, and her assistant (a very young girl)wasn't helping much. For some reason, when they arrive, they have to get their name off a board with all the names on, and put it on another board (a kind of register?). When she was asked to do this, dd clung to me, and asked me to get her name. Another little girl, even helpfully told her that her name was blue, but she still wouldn't get it. When I had handed the name to her, she happily ran and put it on the second board.
What I'm not sure about is whether the two are in some way connected? Dd can recognise her own name when it is written down, but I would understand her having difficulty if it is mixed in with 20 other names. It seems to me that someone (the abrupt NN?) has called her stupid sometime in the last few days , and now she is repeating it at home. I have told her that she is not stupid, and that if anyone tells her she is, she should just say I'm not stupid, but am now worried she'll get told off for being cheeky.
Should I just ignore this, and wait and see what happens, or should I make a point of speaking to the manager, even though I have no evidence at all, just a feeling of uneasiness?
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Tissy · 08/02/2005 10:53
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