Ds is 10 months and I am due back at work in a couple of weeks. He has been a very clingy baby from about 4 months and Due to my circumstances, I haven?t been able to do much about it ? relatives living a long way away and a fairly unhelpful husband.
When I chose the nursery, there was a very pleasant lady in charge, she has just been replaced by someone with few personal skills and has already been a bit difficult. The other lady said I would get four settling in sessions and now I am only allowed two?
Anyway, because he is so clingy, I decided to put ds in for a couple of hours the first week, half days this week and full days next week. While I am only going back to work for 3 days, I thought it might help ds to settle better if he went every day for a month before I cut back to the three days I actually work. Because dh won?t help with dropping off and fetching I have to leave ds at 7.30, when his own carers don?t arrive until 8am. Until today, I have dropped him off and left quickly because I was so upset but today I watched through the window a little. When I arrived, there were already three children there (3 ish) and only one carer. The carer held ds for a short while and then put him on the floor and continued to amuse the other three while ds was screaming.
While I don?t want to cause any more trouble, should I expect something more? Like another carer, if there are already three children there?? Or that the carer should try and comfort ds a little?? Am I being unreasonable?? Handing ds over is the hardest thing I have ever had to do and to see that he isn?t being comforted really upsets me (crying as I write this?). I have heard that recent research has shown that if allowed to scream for more than 20 mins, the baby?s brain is actually damaged. Am I doing the wrong thing in leaving him at all??
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AnnaK · 13/01/2005 09:13
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