Hurt atnursery - hospital visit needed

[LovingBeingAMummy]

This happened yesterday, I got a phone call at work to say DS had cut his head and they couldn't stop bleed, could i come to get him and take to hospital.
DS had cut on eyebrow as a result of 'fighting' with another child.
They showed me CCTV of what happened. DS has toy and was playing happily when another child decided to take it from him. DS at first kept it close to him so there was lots of to-ing and fro-ing but finally DS gives it to the child. As soon as child has it they throw it at DS, hits his eye area.
Nursery nurse was in there within a minute but I am still very upset. Doc says cut on nasty part of head and was told to wake him every 3 hrs last night and they want to have quiet time for the next 3 days so no nursery until monday. I need to take time off (no a probelm as work really good). And he will miss his 1st swimming lesson tomorrow. Am so so gutted. I won't have any knee jerk reaction and rant abt taking him out but will feel so worried onmonday when i drop him off again.
By the way the child he 'fought' with has picked on him in the past - came home with pinch marks, told me that child has pushed him. Last week nursery nurse told methatchild pushed my DS and DS punched him basck. This also upset me as DS has felt the need to get physical with child. Not sure what nursery can do about other child, but what helpme/reassure me about my DS.
Feel so scared about taking him back to nursery. But he so settled and happy there.
In the early hrs of this morning felt like giving in my notice and staying athome but that won't benefit anyone.

[RubySlippers]

how old is your LO?

it sounds very upsetting for you and hope your DS is feeling ok today

I am glad nursery have shown you the CCTV - very reassuring that they are so frank with you

FWIW, things like this can and do happen at home/toddler groups/nurseries etc

[edam]

Oh dear, not surprised you feel miserable about it. But pushing and grabbing do happen with small children - the other child won't have thought through the consequences of his actions.

I'd have a chat with nursery about how they are going to supervise the other child and monitor his behaviour.

[dejags]

I think the fact that the nursery are so open about showing you the CCTV is fantastic!!! The are obviously open to resolving this issue.

As the incident required a hospital visit, I would most certainly formalise the event by writing to the nursery and asking them for a formal response.

I wouldn't, however, word it as a complaint, more a joint effort in trying to stop this from happening again.

Just out of interest what toy was thrown, it must have had sharp edges, was it suitable for a nursery environment?

[Scampmum]

I would agree - sounds like a really unfortunate incident (and perhaps unsuitable toy) but would be really happy with the way nursery had dealt with it.

[SmugColditz]

I totally understand your upset. Things like this do happen though, it's not acceptable for your son to be walloped at nursery, but it is very normal. Sorry it ended in hospital.

I think they dealt with it fantastically, and I bet they will be glued to the other child.

However ..... I think they were decidedly unprofessional in deciding to show you the CCTV footage .... you now know who that child is, and who his parents may be, and that is supposed to be confidential information!

[dejags]

Do you really think it was unprofessional Colditz? Interesting.

The OP's child could easily enough have pointed out the other child, so I am not sure that confidentiality could have been maintained in any event.

If my child hurt somebody to the extent that they had to go to hospital, I don't think I'd have an issue with the nursery disclosing my childs' identity to the parents of the other child.

[SmugColditz]

Even if the other parents were like an episode of shameless, Dejags, and followed you home from nursery to find out where you live then put all your windows through? Because I know people like that, and that's why the policy of confidentiality should always be followed.

You can't always judge how people will react when they see their own child being injured. Some people have a c'est la vie attitude - others will erupt like volcanoes and go and scream at the offending child's innocent parents! It's one thing being told of an injury and being told by a 2 year old who did it - quite another to see the event on film.

The OP has reacted with great restraint, but many other people wouldn't.

[dejags]

Didn't think of it like that.

I think I must be naive. Bunny boiling parents...(I can see your point though ).

What on earth is the world coming to?

[Scampmum]

I forgot about that aspect too - nursery never tells us which 'other child' hurt DD.

[RubySlippers]

colditz - you have raised an intereesting potint re CCTV

we are never told at nursery who has bitten etc our DS either

[chatee]

as your child needed hospital treatment the nursery have a duty to report this incident to OFSTED, have they done this? if not i would be worried.
they have also breached ofsted regulations by informing you of which child did the injury to your child....
little incidents of not following regulations could be hiding bigger problems....sorry

[LovingBeingAMummy]

Hi everyone thanks for messages.
Regarding CCTV we signed form saying that others can view our child so assume other parent did too.
Also my DS who is 3 told me straightaway who did it.
The toy was a till!!
In the past never told abt biting so can only assume bcos of seriousness that i was shown what happened. I found out from my child who did it by name. They never told me child's name.
I am going to talk to nursery again about keeping children apart but will be sending him back.