my DS 22months is due to start nursery within the next few weeks. he will be doing 2 mornings a week. he has never really been away from me or DH before apart from the occasional few hours with grandparents.
when he is at toddler groups he generally goes off and plays and only comes back to me to show me toys or if he is pushed etc by another child.
he will have a friend whom he plays with at nursery so it will be someone he knows but on his first day should i stay with him or should i just go when hes distracted and leave my number for if he gets very distressed?
i dont like the thought of him getting upset and thinking ive left him but i know he will benefit from going to nursery
I would say go and get them to ring you if he's upset. At least that way you'll see as you'll have to leave him eventually. Maybe do a phased intro though - two hours first day, increasing over a week.
Talk to the staff at the nursery and see what they recommend.
At dd2's nursery, they suggested that I stay for the first session, then for the next few, I just stay for five minutes or so. We are hopeful that in a couple of weeks I will be able to just drop her off at the door like all the other mums.
Also, talk to him beforehand and explain what is going to happen - if you decide to leave him, tell him that you will be going, but you will be back. Make sure that he understands that you are not going forever.
I always stay for about 20 mins/half an hour or so, gradually moving to play with other children so that he/she can still see me. Then i pop out for an hour (maybe read paper in car outside) but leave phone number so i can be back asap if needed.
Most nurseries have their own policies or ideas that work so see what they suggest.
Settling in arrangements seem to work really well. we had
first day come for an hour with parent
second day have an hour with parent and then an hour without
third day whole morning without
then straight to full time
worked fine for us