It’s not normal and yes you are paying for that already.
Sadly, like others have said, the high fees you are paying are covering the severe lack of funding coming from the government. So even after everyone pays, the funding leaves a gap and something has to give. I agree if your nursery are having to ask for these I would listen to the warning bells. It may improve. How full is the nursery?
We ask for donations of things like junk modelling items, old electrical items, old kitchen items for the mud kitchen ....admittedly in the last couple of years this has extended to openly asking for unloved toys and books - because things break, resources are bloody expensive and money is tightening.
Last year our owner got rid of the cleaner to save money. So the staff have to do a full clean while the children are in in the last hour.
There is now talk about removing the kitchen, so make the cook redundant and make everyone bring in packed lunches (for 3 meals a day......awful idea in my opinion) - alternative being still getting rid of the cook but having the staff cook (somehow whilst looking after children) or completely eliminating the cost of food from fees and charging every meal as extra on top and making children provide their own snacks. From the new year they will definitely have to bring in their own snacks.
I’ve seen the books for ours. Minimum wage is going up (which tbh means everyones wage has to rise because most staff are on minimum wage or slightly above depending on responsibility) pension is rising, a lot of our staff are hitting the upper age range for minimum wage, food costs are going up along with the bills, training is so expensive and there are so many compulsory training courses which is missed will certainly at best bring an Ofsted rating down (first aid being the priciest but the most vital)..but the funding levels are remaining too low and not rising at all.
Our local collaboration is considering a collective pull out of the 30 hours (all of the nurseries / preschools part of it are independent or very small chain) - essentially to save each other. If one nursery pulls out of providing 30 hours parents will just up and leave. If we all collectively agree not to provide it and therefore all the nurseries in the town and surrounding villages have no 30 hour providers, in theory parents won’t have as much of an option. Or of course the big chain will just gobble us all up. It’s bloody awful to have to think like that. I’m worried for my nursery.
I think you should maybe ask some questions and look a bit deeper op. They could simply be very tight financially and prioritising training and resources and staff, but if they are struggling with the basics it’s concerning.