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Scratching reports.. not my fault?(5 Posts)
Help. So my daughter is 2 in August and she has been getting reports from the nursery that she is scratching other kids. She doesn’t do this with me or her dad or any of our family. It only happens at nursery. Twice in the last week I have received incident reports from the nursery basically complaining that she’s scratching the other kids to make their faces bleed and that she has ‘sharp nails’. I cut her nails constantly and even my mum looked and her nails were fine.
I’m looking for advice on what to do as I can’t really discipline her at nursery as it’s not my job?
I’m kinda like why aren’t they managing this better and making sure she isn’t scratching people to the point they are bleeding? Baring in mind I pay almost £60 a day for my child to be at this nursery.
Surely they should be keeping an eye on her a bit more and not letting her run wild which is how it sounds.
The fact all these kids are now going home with letters to say they’ve been scratched is so mortifying.
What would you’s do please?
I wouldn't do anything.
This is standard policy across all nurseries.
Any injury that results in a mark to another child results in an accident form for the child who is hurt and an incident form for the child that caused the injury.
The only thing you can do is.keep her nails short and wait for the phase to pass. I would be asking what the nursery is putting into place to prevent it happening again e.g. close supervision/distraction but I would expect it to happen again as it doesn't really matter how closely supervised children are , a scratch or bite can happen extremely quickly, even if the child is 1:1 with an adult.
Go in and be proactive - so what strategies are you putting in place to stop this?
Put some of the emphasis back to them, as they are present, and then support them in what they do.
I wouldn’t worry about this. It will be a short lived phase. Just encourage ‘kind hands’, you know the stuff, you’re probably doing it already. ‘ don’t scratch, it hurts people and they won’t play with you’ one of mine went through a stage of being bitten about 3 times a week at nursery, by the same kid! I didn’t hold a grudge,. she’s only little she’ll probably move on to something else soon!
It's embarrassing, but the nursery must know it’s not unusual behaviour for little children. At this age she doesn't have verbal skills to express frustration or annoyance. She literally doesn't know any better.
Growing up they need our help helping them with words so they can voice big feelings like jealousy or possessiveness.
Even toddlers playing sweetly can overstep a line and they can resort to scratches or bites.
The nursery have told you about it so you just say thanks for bringing it to your attention, you feel bad about it. It's not something that she does at home but you're making sure her nails are short and are keen to know how they normally address this kind of aggression on the spot.
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