I don't know where to start. My son is 3.3 y.o.
Since the very beginning, he was very attached to me and his dad.
He is still sleeping in his bed in our bedroom as he is very upset otherwise (it is a long story).
He has some problem with his speech, it is very unclear, we've been to a speech therapist, but they told us that probably we need to wait. I can see a progress in his speech, but the clarity of it remains quite bad. He builds short sentences now, but instead of animal names he uses animal sounds, for example, and the majority of his words are the parts of words. He uses a mix of English and the language we speak at home.
We just finished toilet training and do not use nappies any more, however, he needs assistance with taking off his clothing and putting it back on.
I must also say that he is an incredibly active child. He counts objects (knows numbers till 12 and can count objects, know which is less, recently showed an interest to start with letters)
We also are able to leave him for a half a day with his grandparents. He absolutely loves them, but if we are not present at home after 5 hours he starts to sob and cry where are mummy and daddy.
This summer he showed increased interest in other kids, and I was very happy. I thought that we will start our nursery.
We have a place for three hours a day.
The nursery is quite good. It's very crowded, around 40 kids there, but it's the best nursery in our area we have been to. Staff is very friendly too.
We have been to one stay and play session in June. he absolutely loved nursery.
On the 5th of September, he attended it for the first time. I left him and heard a scream " where is mummy"? But the staff told me that they will call me if something will be wrong.
When I came to collect him he was sitting in front of the tv (i haven't noticed they had a tv before that) he saw me and started crying heavily).
Staff told me he was "teary, but ok".
The second day they had to pull him off me, he was crying heavily. When we came to collect him we've been told that he was crying and then settled for a while and then cried again.
But the third day was hard. It was ok at home, but he started crying halfway, tried to run back home. I had to take him there in my lap. When he saw the entrance he had hysterical cry, he looked scared and I couldn't leave him. Back at home he lied on the floor and cried. I have never seen him like this. I couldn't distract him. Checked his temperature and it was 38! He was ok before, no runny nose or any other symptoms. He had higher temperature till bedtime.
Today his temperature is 36.6 but he was very anxious getting dressed and repeats he won't go to lady (nursery) despite I told him we are not going anywhere.
I'm so upset it's like this. I need those 3 hours.. he also has multiple food allergies and atopic eczema (although it's better now first years were really hard).
But it just feels so wrong! I'm terrified of his reaction. I don't know what to do. I have told our dad to try to go to nursery with him (my DH will
have different shift next week)
I'm working from home part time.
Another huge question is what to do with the reception next year wether postpone the school altogether for a year or start the reception without nursery...
I don't know what to do.
I have no one to talk to with knowledge of the process in England, education system is complimently different where my family lives.
I really need some thoughts..
Should we seek the advice of the psychologist?
I'm so upset..
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Fabiagracefawndorn · 08/09/2018 10:55
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