New nursery / no day to day info

[Colabottle10]

DS is 2, only just, and since 14 months had been attending annursery attached to a primary school. Was my second choice as first choice nursery didn't take until 2.

First nursery filled in a book every day of nappies, sleep and what he's eaten, along with a brief run down of what he'd been up to.

He was due to move out of the baby room at 2, so we took the opportunity to move to first choice nursery as this is the feeder for the school he'll eventually go to.

I know the lady that runs it quite well. It's very highly regarded in the area and has a waiting list. I'm struggling with the lack of info I'm getting. Nothing is written down other than a generic board what what they've done during the day. I don't know if he's had a poo since Monday as he's not had one before nursery and they don't tell me. I don't know what he's eaten as I just get his empty packed lunch box back, when I asked about naps I got a vague 'oh 1-2p' but that sounded like she didn't know.

I want to ask for more info but don't want to be 'that mum'. Am I just expecting too much?

[fabulous01]

I got a daily card with food details, and nappies as well as what they did
That stopped at 3 but I still speak to staff to see how they are but some parents in ore schiool grab and go

I also got a detailed folder leaving toddler room going into pre school with almost a daily entry of something the child did each day

Some nurseries also do updates on an iIT system

So yes if I was you I would say something

[user1493413286]

I think it’s important to know whether they’ve eaten or had a poo as otherwise like you say you could miss that he hasn’t been or isn’t eating much.
I also like to know what my DD is doing at childcare; in part because she’s my child and I’m interested etc but also so I can do similar at home to develop skills or if she likes it eg. My childcare told me how much DD played with a certain type of toy so I then got her some at home

[SleepyMcEdie]

If you send a packed lunch can you ask for any uneaten food not to be binned? That’s what my childminder does so I can see how much of his lunch he has eaten. She also records any dirty nappies but not wet.

[Colabottle10]

Thanks for the replies, I'll have a chat at drop off this morning. The not throwing food away is a good idea then I can see exactly what he's eaten.

[itsaboojum]

The level of information you require is not a regulatory requirement, but most nurseries would be telling you anyway. Some give less written infinformation or dispense with the daily diary once out of the baby room. I’d still expect them to be able to tell you face to face or answer your questions.

Possible being a school Nursery doesn’t help. Perhaps they have the school culture already.

[Colabottle10]

Oh they aren't a school nursery, the first one he went to was. This one is a private nursery and most children from this nursery go into the pre-prep school that my DS will go to.

[SoyDora]

Mine both started at a nursery at 2 and we never got that level of information to be honest. They took packed lunches and they didn’t throw away the leftovers so I knew what they’d eaten. I wasn’t given any toilet information but mine both always told me if they’d done a poo. DD1 different from awful constipation so I did ask them to keep an eye on her toilet habits.
Otherwise the only information we got was a weekly diary that I filled in for them (things she’s been doing at home) and they filled in back (things she’s done at nursery). It was about 3-4 lines.
To be honest it suited me fine, I trust that they’re caring for them well and they were both very good at communicating to me what they’d been doing, but I know other parents would have preferred more information. It just depends on the setting.

[itsaboojum]

Tbf there are wide differences between parents and how much information they want.

IME most want a daily diary. In a few cases it’s critical, say if another person collect some from childcare, so the provider seldom sees the parent.

Yet fewer than 10% have ever signed to indicate they’ve read it. A significant number are clearly not read regularly, parents are frequently unaware when they leave it behind over the weekend. Others are lost at home with such regularity that they clearly cannot be valued.

[nutellanom]

I understand, I really appreciate having a daily diary from our nursery. Probably more so when he first started as he had more naps etc, but now (he's two) I still like to know if he's done a poo and whether he's eaten much, and how long he napped for. It might be a quick glance but still important. I think you need to ask the Nursery to provide you with this info. They will probably be recording a lot of it anyway for their own records.

[WooYa]

In my nursery the baby room give out daily sheets with info on but they stop when they move to 2-3 room because some days there are 25 children. We just don't have the time to fill it all out each day. We are happy to talk to parents about their child's day and their meals/nappies etc.

[Tumbleweed101]

You usually get more info in baby room up to 2. Once they move to toddler room the level of info will reduce unless you specifically ask for certain updates, but if you request it they shouldn’t have a problem to provide it. There should be a nappy and sleep chart that will give you the info you would want. Once children are independent at going to toilet info in this area will stop unless your child has any issues with toilet training.