Nursery problems.

[Disenchantress]

I'm not too sure where to pop this but here goes!
My LO hasn't long started nursery and I'm having a few problems.
First is they have planned a school trip and asked me to come along as my dd is a handful at times, I feel like it will be a ton of stress and All eyes will be on me as the only mom there and having my stroppy two year old in tow. It's making me anxious to think about! We're paying them an awful lot of money to look after her and if they can't cope I'd rather them just say and I can take her out for a few months until she's a little older or find somewhere that can. I just don't know how to say I'd rather not come without sounding awful.
They also keep sending her home with wet trousers in a bag how is she being left to pee through her nappy everyday? I'm very much an avoider of confrontation and don't know what to say...
And when I do try to chat to them they palm me off as quickly as possible despite me being there a little early to pick up everyday!
I'm sorry if this is garbled and doesn't make much sence I'm so stressed about a lot of things, I'm in tears...I just wish everything could be easier just for a while.

[Loraline]

I agree on the first point. I've seen our nursery handle some very full on kids
That's what they're trained to do and it's odd they're singling you out.

On the wet trousers, is it definitely because of nappy leaks? My DS comes home with wet trousers a lot from either soaking himself playing at the water tray or outside playing. Also the nursery are great at fostering independence in toddlers so he regularly drowns himself while drinking from an open glass at lunch.

[Polly2345]

I've had to ask my DC's nursery to change nappies more often. They agreed straight away.

[ILikeMyChickenFried]

Are you sure it's just you being asked to accompany your child? Our nursery asks for as many parent helpers as possible for school trips.

[Disenchantress]

I'm pretty sure it's a leaked nappy as it's usually more her back rather than down the front and nothing on her shirt.
And I'm almost certain I'll be the only parent there as I've asked all the moms I know for her class and they won't be there...

[MissJSays]

From what you've said it sounds like you have zero communication with them.
All of this could be sorted by talking to your child's key person. Doesn't matter if your not very confrontational, at the end of the day it just won't ever get sorted if you don't say anything.

[OlennasWimple]

What's stopping you having an informal chat with her key worker about how she is settling in, why her trousers are getting wet every day and why they feel that they need you on the trip?

[Littlefish]

I'm sure that the nursery is perfectly able to support your child during the day at nursery. However, going out on a trip with children is a completely different matter. You've said yourself that "my dd is a handful at times". The nursery are asking you to accompany your daughter to ensure that she is safe at all times. Presumably, she does not have 1:1 support at nursery which means that all staff will be needed to support the other children and not just your daughter.

The only alternative would be to exclude your daughter from the trip and that would be completely inappropriate.

Whether you think you will stand out or not, the nursery has asked for your support.

[Disenchantress]

Hey sorry, not checked this in a while but thanks for the responses, there's no such thing as a key worker where I live unfortunately.

I did have a chat with her teacher at the end of year review but by this point my dd has been off a lot due to illness and I've now taken her out as I have to fly home soon to be with my momma who's unwell.

I'd really thought popping her nursery would make life a little easier but it just throws up new challenges and they're we're just too many to make it viable long term. I'm looking forward to getting back to the UK and being able to find a play group which will hopefully suit us a lot more.

Thanks again everyone!

[girlwitharash]

When you do get back to the uk, it's a legal requirement in the eyfs for settings to have a key person system in place.
So she should have a key person!
Good luck