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Bruised 10 month old from nursery

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Sarahblankley33 Sat 11-Nov-17 09:48:11

What to do... my 10 month old started an amazing nursery 3 weeks ago and a few days ago i collected him took him home to find bruising to the backs of his legs looking like finger marks.

Im not naive i know children get bruised i have another 2. I know so.e people can be a bit heavier handed.

Anyway a complaint was put forward and i didnt take him back. An internal investigation is under way. I have had many personal reviews of this nursery if the same staff and its excellent word of mouth. Number 1 on the ofsted. The keyworker manages my breast fed baby all day without breast milk which is massive for me. We were happy until this. I doubt ill have an answer or explanation as thats the way its going.

There are many positives to this nursery do i let this keep him out or give it a chance. Ive had previous nursery not give him water in the day and leave him refusing food and not re offereing.

Hard decision

insancerre Sat 11-Nov-17 09:54:53

Your baby is only 10 months old and this is the second nursery you have withdrawn him from?
Wow. You've been very unlucky
If you don't trust the staff in the nursery then I don't see how you can take him back
What are you expecting from the internal review?
If the staff were aware of the bruises then I'm sure they would have got you to sign the accident form
If you seriously suspect a member of staff has caused the bruising then no you can't take him back
You will probably never find out how the bruising happened

Sarahblankley33 Sat 11-Nov-17 10:01:25

The last nappy change was 2.30 i collected him at 5.30. I had assumed something happened in this window as nothing had been logged. The problem here is my gut doesnt give me the same "run a mile" as the last. My partner believes it was intentional im not so sure.

The staff have been there a long time and although he doesnt walk only the last week or so he pulls himself up and is starting on his knees.

2 nurseries in 7 weeks. Yes bad luck

InDubiousBattle Sat 11-Nov-17 10:06:14

Are they definitely adult finger marks? Could it have been another child?

ForgetMeNotCat Sat 11-Nov-17 10:07:23

Did you ask them how it happened before you raised a complaint and took him out?

insancerre Sat 11-Nov-17 10:13:30

Have you tried to position your fingers over the bruises? Do they match and is there a thumb mark on his thighs?
Is it on both legs?
Is it possible that he has pulled himself up and then sat down heavily on something?
What's the arrangements for nappy changes? Can the staff be seen by the other staff?

Sarahblankley33 Sat 11-Nov-17 10:14:09

After speaking with OH he called social services and i was advised to log it. Does look like finger marks. Ive gone over every scenario in my mind. I didnt tell the nursery til 3 days after and they were notified by ofsted to do an investigation. I did go and see them yesterday they were transparent and nice. I cried. As you do. I feel heartbroken as my son seemed settled and if someone has done this by accident they wont come forward now its just such a mess. Doc says theyre pressure marks

Sarahblankley33 Sat 11-Nov-17 10:16:36

The nursery tried to imply i did it getting him into the car seat. I have never bruised my son i expected them to counter accuse me as did everyone else. Well they havnt accused just put it as an option. They say he kicks his legs in the seat at dinner a lot and that may have caused it or the fact he could have fallen on something but ill know once theyre done investigating or i wont and will just have to decide based on instinct and parents already there

Sarahblankley33 Sat 11-Nov-17 10:18:28

Ive considered nappy changes as he is a wriggle. They seem as fingers definately. It could be an accident i wish and hope it is. My son has held him before and accidently caused a finger mark so i understand it can be done.

Sarahblankley33 Sat 11-Nov-17 10:30:29

Its a 0 to 1 room so the likely hood of another baby doing it is slim

Enwi Sat 11-Nov-17 12:34:34

Is your little one crawling around?
I look after a little boy who kept coming to my setting with different bruises on his ankles that had happened at home. They looked to me like bruises that had happened during nappy changes, like he had been held too hard. He is a wriggler so it did make sense, but it was upsetting to think he was being held so hard it was hurting him.
I made notes of the bruises for two weeks, and the third time I noticed a different bruise in the same place I asked mum if she knew what was causing them. She laughed and told me immediately that he was kicking the foot bar on his highchair. I accepted this and because the child was very well and happy otherwise, I forgot about it. A few weeks later I got a new highchair that happened to have a footbar. He did exactly as his mum had said and started kicking the footbar. He kicked it with his feet above the bar, causing a bruise on the back of his ankle and again with his feet below the bar, causing a bruise on the front of his ankle. It looked exactly like someone had been holding his ankle too tightly.
The point of my anecdote is that things aren't always as they seem. At 10 months old, your little one will very soon be able to tell you if he really doesn't like a setting (or even, a person within the setting). One bruise as a one off at an age when children are constantly banging into things, misjudging things and taking risks does seem a bit over the top to me. You were right to report it and have it logged, but I think pulling him out of nursery immediately might be a mistake.

Leyblank Sat 11-Nov-17 13:03:04

This is how i felt and everyone disagreed with me so i thought i was bonkers. I have 2 older boys so i am fully aware of scrapes etc. My instinct was a nappy change as he is a strong wriggler but ive never bruised him in this instance probably more so that i know how to pacify him. Thank You for your reply. Its clearly finger marks as per gp but they already started to fade day 2 and by day 3 literally non existant. He was happier by the day in nursery. Sad situation either way we'd have this investigation so it is what it is

Leyblank Sat 11-Nov-17 13:03:48

Sorry leyblank is me i changed my username

PlugUgly1980 Sat 11-Nov-17 18:47:15

I was asked about bruising on my daughter by nursery. Lots of small, round, finger tip sized bruises. I’d put it down to being a clumsy toddler, but couldn’t account for them all. Long story, short, she actually has a medical condition which causes easy bruising which we didn’t know about at the time.

Leyblank Sat 11-Nov-17 20:04:08

He doesn't bruise easily but that is a good point and i guess its always good to know for future reference. Its so hard leaving your children in the care of others and being 100% happy.

Thanks for your comments it's hekped me in deciding what to do!

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