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Kiara32 Wed 04-Oct-17 21:01:18

What do you do when your 2 year old has been at nursery school for about 3 weeks, for 2.5 hours a day? And they say that he has issues, not sitting still for long, very disruptive, throws toys everywhere, wants to bring in someone to assess him and needs one to one with a teacher. Then they cut a day and hours cos of staff issues or they can't handle a very active boy. Change schools, or give it some time , plus I'm expecting a baby in December.
Key teacher seems positive, head always calling me to go pick my son up earlier.
Then today, my son hit 2 kids within an hour of being there, they called me in to go earlier, should they do that or handle the situation until the session is over, which would be 45 mins later.

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PlugUgly1980 Wed 04-Oct-17 21:04:39

Accept there offer of assessment. In a good Nursery, they are by far the experts and see so many children of similitude ages, that I would take their feedback on board and work with them to put a suitable care package in place.

Littlefish Wed 04-Oct-17 21:36:22

It sounds like he is feeling a bit overwhelmed. In the same circumstances, the nursery at my school would also suggest reduced sessions so that the child has a successful and positive experience.

It's good that they want to bring someone in to assess him. If they feel he needs more support, then bringing in outside agencies may be the key to assessing funding.

insancerre Thu 05-Oct-17 06:34:26

I'd move nurseries
They don't understand 2 year olds
Its not appropriate to expect a 2 year old to sit still
It sounds like they are not meeting his needs
He needs active play outside play and more adult interaction, not sitting still

ASauvignonADay Thu 05-Oct-17 06:38:47

Go with it. I wouldn’t move - that will unsettle him.

FluffyMcCloud Thu 05-Oct-17 06:39:37

Don't move nurseries yet. Work with this one and talk to them about how they plan to work with your child. Accept the assessment! Why wouldn't you? If he is assessed to find nothing "wrong" then that's ruled out for now and nursery make plans to manage him. If he is assessed to have additional needs he will get the support he needs. It's great they are being so proactive when he is so young.

dertyyuoih2 Thu 05-Oct-17 06:43:21

Let them do the assessment, what it means is that they as a nursery might then have to increase there staff ratio and they might be eligible for extra funding.
Is he the same at home? What is he like in play guns?

dertyyuoih2 Thu 05-Oct-17 06:43:28

Play gyms not guns!

insancerre Thu 05-Oct-17 06:50:17

3 weeks is not long enough to decide a 2 year old needs assessing
Nothing the op has said suggests he needs assessing, unless there is much more going on that the nursery haven't said
It sounds like they have staffing issues
You shouldn't have to go and collect him, they should be managing his behaviour and putting strategies in place to support him
They can't just get a child assessed because they can't deal with his behaviour. They will have to demonstrate that they have put strategies in place and they haven't worked before he will be referred to panel. They haven't done this.

jannier Thu 05-Oct-17 08:14:35

3 weeks is not long enough to call in an assessment he hasn't even settled in this time. How long are they expecting a 2 year old to sit? the reason why time out if used is a minute per year of their age is because its more like day for us so if e sits at an activity for 5 minutes its good if it doesn't interest him ( they should be following his interests have they asked what he likes and are they using this?)
Has he been in a busy environment before or is it his first experience? If hes not used to so many toys hes going to be flying bout everywhere.
I wouldn't worry about an assessment because if the assessor is good they will consider all this and may even ot come in for a few more weeks by then he will have settled and they can see the true situation,

Isthatwhatdemonsdo Thu 05-Oct-17 16:49:38

As an ex Nursery Practioner and Teaching Assistant, I think he's not been there long enough to warrant an assessment. By all means work with the nursery, but he is still finding his feet. Sounds like they need more patience.

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