Crying when being left

[ConConstance]

Hi,

First time mum needing some advice please.

My daughter is coming up for 1 years old very soon, she has been going to nursery 2 afternoons a week since she was 6 months old. It's a great nursery and all the staff in the baby room are lovely. The last couple of weeks when I have dropped her off she's not wanted to go to the staff and cries. It's horrid! She sobs and it breaks my heart. The staff have said she calms down after 10-15 mins once in the baby room.

Any tips and advice welcome

[ConConstance]

If anyone has any tips on how to deal with this please advise. She wouldn't settle at all today and was still screaming half hour later until I collected her

[Rainbow2017]

I am a nursery nurse and I can honestly say this is normal!

Your DC is still very young and only goes twice a week., because of that it will take longer for them to settle / get used to it.

We have had a child who cried for over a year ( we tried everything!) and then suddenly one day it clicked ... she then loved it! And would cry when her parents came to collect her! She is now at school and is absolutely fine. ( she was the same age!)

Children can also take a few steps back and not want to go to nursery ( even after they have once settled) again this can be normal.

I can't really advise anything than reassurance, calm voice when dropping off and trying to stay calm ( I know it's very hard..the child can feel your emotions) and try to not miss any sessions because of you do it will just make it harder for when they do go back.

[ConConstance]

Thank you for taking the time to reply. I have never had issues in the six months until the last few weeks. I think she may not have been herself with her teething because she was fine Thursday when I left her

[whenthedaydawns75]

Also worth noting that they go through phases of this, mine did probably every nursery year, normally a reaction to change

[GreenRut]

Hi op, in my opinion it's best to very nicely but firmly tell them mummy is going now, give them a nice hug and kiss and then skidaddle! I think the worst thing would be to hang around, it makes it worse for you and the people who work there. All 3 of mine went through this phase (1 still is) and it really is normal, even if they've previously been no bother at all. They will switch out of it as quickly as they started.

[ConConstance]

Thank you for taking the time to reply. She has snapped out of it 😊

[RedMum1972]

Make the drop off short and sweet. Tell your child you love them and will be back soon. Sometimes parent can hang around too long and your child will be able to feel your anxiety too 😀

[AbernathysFringe]

Hi - just a question about drop off, sorry to hijack OP. My 1.11 year old is on her 4th session. The last time she was screaming, red in the face and reaching out to me while being held by a nursery worker and I left. Feel absolutely terrible for doing it like that. She spent the week after saying 'miss mummy' 'I cry' about nursery. This week she started screaming and crying as we walked in the door and clinging to me. I stayed 10 mins cuddling and told her I'd be back later and have fun, eventually sitting her on a staff member's lap and going. In this case I was right to not just cut and dash again, right? The first example wasn't a good thing to do, was it?